The Speech

[Onyx]

In thinking back over past relationships, I'd say more than have have ended with a breakup "speech" that has been eerily the same. The last time it happened I couldn't take it - I interrupted halfway and said "yeah, I know. I'm so nice and so interesting and the sweetest. Heard it all before."

If I'm so sweet why the hell do I lose lovers I really adore? I swear I think my personality destroys relationships. and these were the GOOD ones.

The bad relationships and ones who turned out to be bad guys would hang on forever. Those relationships were the ones *I* ended.

Seriously though, has anyone heard "the speech"? Maybe my "niceness" becomes really too intense or maybe they expected me to get hysterical or something and they were just softening the blow. ?

I used to be quite social (when I found people around I like) but I don't even feel like trying anymore. Lately I just feel like an empty shell. It's like my soul has been emptied out and there's nothing left of me at all.

[EvilEve]

i've heard "the speech" more than enough times. (i'm counting about 10 so far) and i've given a semi-small speech to those that i've broken it off with. though it wasn't anything that they had done to make me not like them the same way, i was just following my heart, and didn't want to hurt them with lies.

no one likes the good ones, they all want the ones that they know will treat them like crap. or they just don't know a good thing when they see it. i don't know, i can't wrap my head around that one. it takes too much energy to see it from a perspective i don't/choose not to have.

[Killer_Bunnie]

ah the speech, actually got that this week. but I think the one I remember the most, was when I was given the speech by a guy (on my birthday) who at the time I did not know had dated 2 of my friends, well, he gave me the word for word exact same speech that he gave both of them! what a jerk! actually, I am friends with him now, it would be funny if he read this and called me.

[mallochai]

no one likes the good ones, they all want the ones that they know will treat them like crap. or they just don't know a good thing when they see it. i don't know, i can't wrap my head around that one. it takes too much energy to see it from a perspective i don't/choose not to have.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Ya know... I've tried my damndest to be nice and giving, and mean and irritating. There's just no balance for some people.

[DarkVampire]

"But we can still be friends."

[Head Wreck]

its gotten to the point i just know before the first word is uttered.

mind you. with a record like mine during collage, never single, but never with a girl longer than a week or two... heh back then i didnt care either. damn i wish i was me back then again

[EvilEve]

"But we can still be friends." 

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

that's my favorite part of the speech! never have i said that to a guy i've broken it off with.. those in particular were the ones to say it to me!! wtf?! what's so special about me? why do you want to be friends with me even though i don't want to see your face because i hurt you?... needless to say, they should have never suggested being friends when they're not willing to make the effort to try and be friends in the first place!!

[DarkVampire]

From a males point of view (Some males) it's an open door for a booty call when they are desperate.

[saechalyn]

*sigh* If I hear "we're great friends, but..." one more time, I'm... I don't know what I'll do. But I'll be very upset.

[Daevion]

Yes, Ive heard the "speech" a few times.....it always amused me at how hard they tried to not hurt my feelings.

[Nienna]

OMG yes.. I've heard "the speech", almost verbatem, too many times. I'm tempted to carry it around on a cardso when it starts I can just hold it up and then walk away. :(

[TomCat]

The "speech" beats character assassination and framing such that the police actually book you for crimes that your sociopath ex-wishes that you'd have committed to justify her whoring. bitch!