I'm Falling in Love

[unchaste]

Okay, this guy is great. He's sweet, he's funny, sensitive, intelligent....I could go on with positive adjectives for him all night. And the feeling is mutual. He's just as crazy about me as I am for him. It feels so perfect to be with him. I connected with him more in one night than I did with my ex in four years. I'm not exaggerating. I can talk to him for hours, and I think about him constantly. It feels like we were made for each other.

BUT

There is absolutly no way that we can possibly be together. It's like a bad romantic movie. Our lives are going in completely different directions. I can't really go into detail about his life, but let's just say, he's not in a position to be able to drop everything for me. And me, I just got out of an uber long relationship in the beginning of the summer. I should be out having the time of my fricking life, not wanting to dive into another relationship. Monogamy just isn't my thing.

You guys know me, I'm a heartless bitch that fucks everything that walks. I've said it before, I have just an empty hole where my heart should be. But this guy, he makes me feel. I'm not numb when I'm with him. I want to be with him so badly. But I know that it can't happen. He knows that it can't happen. But, we both wish that it could happen. I'm really afraid that I'm falling in love with him. And boys and girls, if there's one thing that I'm afraid of, it is love.

What the hell am I susposed to do? How can I keep myself from falling completely and totally in love with this wonderful, wonderful man? Can he & I have our little affair and go back to our everyday lives? Should we break it off to save ourselves the grief? I'm at a loss. I can tell you almost everything that there is to know about sex, but when it comes to relationships, I'm clueless.

So....does anyone have any suggestions for me? You guys are always so helpful, I would really appreciate any ideas on your part. Thank you.

[Homicidalheathen]

I am on the tail end of exactly the same thing and we are a bit alike except that....I like falling in love.....I just cannot afford to. My heart is as slutty as my pussy..it wants to feel Alot of people in one lifetime....and gets bored easy. Unless someone is exceptional.....

Take some time off. Don't see each other as much. See other people.

Don't loose sight of yourself and your goals and don't put him first.

[Onyx]

Might be the lure of forbidden fruit (wanting something that you know won't work out or that you can't have.

When I've been in situations like this I try to imagine - what if this person lived right next door and whatever obstacles that stood in our way were not there - would I still be as attracted to them?

For me, even if I did end up falling in love it would not be worth the heartbreak if I knew for sure it could not work out for me. (for instance if he were already married or otherwise unavailable).

[EvilEve]

you don't want to fall in love... but you want to be with this person...

have you talked about it with this person? do they understand where you're coming from? do you still want to keep in contact with them?

honestly, you should do what you feel nessary, but don't leave the other person in the dark about your intentions. you obviously have a heart that wants to feel something, but your brain keeps interfearing with the whole "what if's" scenario.

granted, you just got out of a very long relationship where things didn't go quiet the way you expected it, but you can't go around thinking that's how all of your relationships will end. take some time to yourself, wait a while, then see how you feel.

do what is best for you. if you think you're ready for another relationship, go for it. if not, then give yourself more time... just choose your time wisely.

hope everything works out.

[Homicidalheathen]

Here is my rule of thumb. If you can no longer meditate....regularly.....I mean get all thoughts out of your head and go deep within yourself for a good 20 min to half hour....then it is time for some space from what ever is ailing your heart. No one should ever have that much power over you....but you.

[Mizstomp]

Sometimes going for what your heart really needs isn't all that bad.

I say go for it. Don't be selfish.

I, from what I see so far, is that you are a good girl.

[unchaste]

Well

it's over. It finally got to the point where it couldn't go any further. And fuck, does it hurt. Even worse than I thought it would.

My heart came out of hibernation only to get shattered into a million pieces. The worst part about it is, I have no reason to hate him. He was very honest and apologetic. Why couldn't he have been an asshole? I wouldn't feel nearly as bad about giving up an asshole as I do about giving up the most wonderful person that I've ever met.

Damnit.

[bean]

*hugs* I'm here for you, whenever you need someone to talk to, a shoulder to cry on.....

[EvilEve]

Well

it's over.  It finally got to the point where it couldn't go any further.  And fuck, does it hurt.  Even worse than I thought it would.

My heart came out of hibernation only to get shattered into a million pieces.  The worst part about it is, I have no reason to hate him.  He was very honest and apologetic.  Why couldn't he have been an asshole?  I wouldn't feel nearly as bad about giving up an asshole as I do about giving up the most wonderful person that I've ever met. 

Damnit.

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*big hugs* it gets worse before it even starts to get better. know that you have people on here who care about you, and will help you through this as much as we can.

[Homicidalheathen]

Yah same here. I am here for you if you need to talk. I still feel jlted because as of yesturday I got feed more lies and called names.

At least your guy wasnt a crazy idiot like someone I wont mention :innocent