A matter of importance

[soothsayer]

In case some of you have been wondering why I seem a little on edge lately it's because of this. This is a copy of a e-mail I sent to my mom.

Her birthday was last Tuesday - you should've known that already - sure would be nice if her Grandmother called her once in a while and maybe sent her a card every now and then so she wouldn't feel like she meant nothing. If I have to deal with her mom then so must you, if that's too much to ask then I will explain to her how things are but do not expect her to be happy with you if you continue to ignore her. I talked to her last week and that wasn't enough but my situation is different from yours.

If you do not wish to acknowledge her as your grand daughter then just say so, you always seem to be involved with **'s kids and **'s children....you are also doing the same thing to her that my Dad's parents did to me. It's not appreciated and I will no longer tolerate it from either of my parents. If my only child is going to be overlooked then I will no longer speak with those that continue to ignore and hurt  her. Yes, I am angry - deal with it or change things. The choice is yours.

I've been through too much in my life and sometimes when people that shouldn't add more shit to my plate do I get very short fused with them. Wether it be parent, friend or otherwise - it happens. I don't mean to but one must protect themselves from emotional harm.

[Aralis]

Sorry to hear about the shit your dealing with. I know it sucks and its upsetting...even more so when a child is involved. Try to take care and good luck with it all.

[EvilEve]

you want i should punt them? maybe knock a little sense into them with my beating stick? (trying to make you smile a little bit, hopefully it worked. if not, then, i'll try something else later.)

that's bullshit what's going on. i don't think that any parent should overlook any of their children no matter what. then again, i'm talking about an experience i haven't been a part of. hopefully things start to turn out for the better for you.

[TomCat]

That's quite a downer sooth. Hang in there buddy.

[Fierce Critter]

Yes, it really sucks when those who are supposed to be there for you act this way, making your life more miserable instead of being the "port in a storm" you really need them to be.

I thought my own family was impervious to this sort of thing. Rude awakening several years ago - one of my sisters and I aren't talking going on 3 years now.

I guess you really just have to chalk it up to you can't help who you're related to.

And that really sucks.

[The_Dark]

Oh man thats got to suck hard. i hope you mother pulls her head out of her butt soon.

[Dollardave]

Sorry that this happened to u.

[soothsayer]

Thanks everyone - it's not likely things are gonna change any time soon. My mom has been this way for 20 years. She has seen my daughter 3 times and the first two times I was there to witness her indifference towards my daughter. It really pissed me off to see my mother sitting only a few feet away from my 1 y.o. child and all she could do was stare at the t.v. oblivious.

I've tried for 11 years now and I give up. It's not my job to make people do what should come naturally. If she can't figure it out then it's her loss but it will no longer be my burden. Family or not I detest people that are self absored and void of compassion.

[JaneDead]

I've tried for 11 years now and I give up. It's not my job to make people do what should come naturally. If she can't figure it out then it's her loss but it will no longer be my burden.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

i had this issue with my son and his *sperm donor*.

i tried for years to get him to do what he was just SUPPOSED to do when it came to *his* son but he never did it. it probably hurt me worse than it will ever hurt my son since he most likely won't really know the guy. my son has a REAL father now and has for 7 years of his almost 10 years of life so that is all that matters. that my child does have people who love and care about him.

same with you and your daughter. she does have people who love and care about her even if it isn't all the people it should be.

[Msterbeau]

That sucks Sooth. I have a really hard time understanding how anyone can treat children with such indifference.