Slob freinds.....

[Homicidalheathen]

....NASTY????

I have, more than once. Ok like my one freind. I let is slide when she was married because I knew it wasn't her, the guy she was with was a slob and sat on his ass making messes while she worked two jobs to support him. Now that he is gone she is clean.

I am talking about people who have time on their hands, are fully capable but refuse to clean anyway.

I have dumped a freind or two just because it was too gross to sit on their sofa.

What does it say about you if your willing to stay freinds with someone you find so repulsive in this way?

Or do you think it does not matter.

I know a family who is having a war over who WON'T do any house work and so far everyone is loosing as far as I can see as they all have to live in the mess.

I won't go over there anymore as I am afraid I might catch something. I saw a mayo jar rolling around on the floor! Hello! Bend over and pick it up and throw it away!

Also, I dated a guy once that I ended up breaking up with because he was just too much of a slob. I don't think he owned a vacume cleaner.

[honeymustard02]

I know of this messy gene.

My boyfriends mom has it. But it's not like dishes and clothes dirty. It's doesn't mop the floors and is a HUGE pack rat and doesn't dust type of person.

It drives us fucking nuts because there is just crap piled everywhere and she won't get rid of any of it. She has all these knick knacks and shit but won't dust them or anything.

She's a stay at home mom, hasn't worked in over 26 years, and still doesn't clean. She claims she does all this stuff and all she does is wash dishes and wash clothes. NOTHING else.

I don't understand how people live in filthe. Even if it is just junk in the corner. Why live in a warehouse??? Or a dumpster????

[Homicidalheathen]

You know what really gets me and I have come across this twice, once the person had a kid so I sorta had to call the state....white dog poo on the floor.

I mean, common. They leave it there until it is petrified????

[soothsayer]

I knew a woman that let used condoms sit on her bedroom floor....that's just wrong on every level. You can say good hygiene was not at the top of her priority list.

[bean]

ewwww. I used to clean houses for a living and I used to see some really nasty stuff..I could write an entire book about it. Made me want to soak myself in bleach daily. I took lots of boiling hot showers and went through a lot of soap so I made sure I was decontaminated...gross people and their germs.

[Hellion]

:devil How about scumbags who don"t shower and smell of rank BO,the one thing I cannot stand is someone elses body oder.I knew someone that smelled like rotten onions and shit smell,and they would not keep themselves clean. Until I said something which was: "take a swim in lysol please" enough said.

[Homicidalheathen]

Did you actually say that? Wow I am laughing so hard I am about to bust a gut or something.

:devil How about scumbags who don"t shower and smell of rank BO,the one thing I cannot stand is someone elses body oder.I knew someone that smelled like rotten onions and shit smell,and they would not keep themselves clean. Until I said something which was: "take a swim in lysol please" enough said.

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[Kitten]

yea i do kinda hate slobs, thou i myself am a slob, my room has crap everyware... not like rotting food or smelly clothes everyware but like piles an piles of circuit boards, boxes of elextronics parts, tools everyware, cables an cords strewn about, 1/2 assembled gaming consoles that i play in their half assembled state, computer parts everyware, a pile of clean clothes stuffed in my dresser drawers which are mostly filled with vintage electronic parts an things like geiger counters....

yea i'm a slob

[Lilith]

LEstat has been doing home service type calls/job for many years, and he has come home with stories that make me shudder. I think most people would be shocked by the amount of people who actually dont clean, I am not talking about dust and clutter, I am talking about real filth, like people who have a foot of sewer water for a basement and wont get it fixed but expect the phone guy to drudge through poop to install there NEW Phone LInE :blink

I can get over clutter and dust and toys laying all over, undone laundry/dishes and things not being put away but what i cant deal with is flith. things that bread infection or casues one to vomit

[Homicidalheathen]

Yah I hear that breathing in fecal matter like that can cause serious health issues.

[Fierce Critter]

I'm having my own issues with my own messiness. Covered some of this in my "I believe I'm depressed" thread.

Basically, I don't like living in clutter. I don't like dirty dishes, debris on the floor, cat hair sticking to the stove range hood. That sort of thing.

I never wanted to live in one of "those" homes. Oh, the litterboxes get cleaned EVERY day. But nothing else does. There's fucking cat hair EVERYFUCKINGWHERE and it disgusts me.

But at the moment, I am having mental & emotional problems that have my motivation level at a negative number, so it's hard for me to pick up that first piece of clutter and put it in it's place. I have a great vacuum, and my own damned steam cleaner. I've got the tools, and the knowhow. Just no power at the moment.

I wasn't always this way. I used to keep a beautiful apartment. I want desperately to get back to that. I want to have friends over. All the time.

Jon and I went to a fellow DGN'ers apartment the other day to pick something up. I was so floored at how gorgeous their place was. I was so envious. I so want that.

I dread a family member dropping by unannounced. Especially if they'll need to use the bathroom, 'cause not only is it a mess, so is the bedroom they'd have to go through to get to it.

I hate it. And I want it changed. Which means I have to find a way to fix myself.

I never hold this sort of thing against someone, because I don't know the whole story behind it. A messy house doesn't preclude friendship in my heart.

Personal stink - that's another thing altogether. At least I wash my parts.

[Onyx]

Yes, a messy house can definitely be a symptom of depression. The brain makes you sluggish when you're depressed. Everything seems overwhelming. It even shows on a brain scan - lack of activity and even decreased blood flow in many areas of the brain.

This might help -

http://www.flylady.net/

She's a bit too perky to suit me, but her cleaning suggestions are really great. I struggle with the tendency to let things get too messy and cluttered, especially when I'm exhausted from working overtime and the kids haven't been helping out like they should, so it's been a big help to me.

One thing that has helped me more than anything else is her suggestion to set a timer and clean for 15 minutes and then force yourself to stop. You can do a surprising amount in that amount of time, and it's much easier to just work for 15 minutes than say to yourself "I have to clean this entire house today".

[headlessgoth]

i moved out of the house where the dgn halloween party was held because the guy that owned the house i will call him "bojoe" was a fithy disgusting person. everyone that knows him knew that even after a shower he reeeked of b.o. of course it didn't help that he didn't use soap. the house smelled even worse. my room smelled good and that was the only part of the house that friends wanted to be in. he never picked up after himself. he only did laundry once a month and he never washed his sheets even after a dog puked on them.... groooosssss! not to mention the microwave looked as though a cat exploded inside it right after it took a shit and threw up. the carpet had been puked on, shit and pissed on,every type of fluid spilled on it. i finally moved when i saw a roach ,fucking yuk. i am a clean person and could not handle those type of conditions any longer

[Hellion]

i moved out of  the house where the dgn halloween party was held because the guy that owned the house i will call him "bojoe" was a fithy disgusting person. everyone that knows him knew that even after a shower he reeeked of b.o. of course it didn't help that he didn't use soap.  the house smelled even worse. my room smelled good and that was the only part of the house that friends wanted to be in. he never picked up after himself.  he only did laundry once a month and he never washed his sheets even after a dog puked on them.... groooosssss! not to mention the microwave looked as though a cat exploded inside it right after it took a shit and threw up. the carpet had been puked on, shit and pissed on,every type of fluid spilled on it. i finally moved when i saw a roach ,fucking yuk. i am a clean person and could not handle those type of conditions any longer

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:devil Damn,I know that story too well!

[Homicidalheathen]

"he only did laundry once a month and he never washed his sheets even after a dog puked on them.... groooosssss!"

Ew! :confused :doh :erm

[Hellion]

:devil They should Have featured hi house on "house of skank" on the Drew and Mike Show. Even Oscar the Grouch would have moved out.

[Onyx]

Even Oscar the Grouch would have moved out.

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:grin :laughing

[Lilith]

I'm having my own issues with my own messiness. Covered some of this in my "I believe I'm depressed" thread.

Basically, I don't like living in clutter. I don't like dirty dishes, debris on the floor, cat hair sticking to the stove range hood. That sort of thing.

I never wanted to live in one of "those" homes. Oh, the litterboxes get cleaned EVERY day. But nothing else does. There's fucking cat hair EVERYFUCKINGWHERE and it disgusts me.

But at the moment, I am having mental & emotional problems that have my motivation level at a negative number, so it's hard for me to pick up that first piece of clutter and put it in it's place. I have a great vacuum, and my own damned steam cleaner. I've got the tools, and the knowhow. Just no power at the moment.

I wasn't always this way. I used to keep a beautiful apartment. I want desperately to get back to that. I want to have friends over. All the time.

Jon and I went to a fellow DGN'ers apartment the other day to pick something up. I was so floored at how gorgeous their place was. I was so envious. I so want that.

I dread a family member dropping by unannounced. Especially if they'll need to use the bathroom, 'cause not only is it a mess, so is the bedroom they'd have to go through to get to it.

I hate it. And I want it changed. Which means I have to find a way to fix myself.

I never hold this sort of thing against someone, because I don't know the whole story behind it. A messy house doesn't preclude friendship in my heart.

Personal stink - that's another thing altogether. At least I wash my parts.

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LOL FC your house sounds like mine but with kids in the mix which probaly makes mine worse......... THen you add on i am teaching the kids to clean a bathroom properly and well yeah they dont do it right and then i have lack of energy to follow them around and redo what they did not do right. yeah it pretty bad around here, been through this cycle many times dont know how to stop it, I plan to look at the link Onyx posted, hopefully i find something that helps. :erm

[Homicidalheathen]

Lilith your house wasn't bad when I was there....a little messey maybe, not much. I have seen some pretty scary shit......I mean shit. White shit. Heh.

[Lilith]

Lilith your house wasn't bad when I was there....a little messey maybe, not much.  I have seen some pretty scary shit......I mean shit.  White shit.  Heh.

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lol that was at the beginning of the cycle you should see it today.... :blink

maybe if this house was actually finished it would not seem to bad to me, at least then things we do not use on a regular basis would have a home........

Cabinets would be helpful that would eliminate the boxes stacked up around here and if i could put my Photos art and knick knacks on the shelves i have for them that would be great fun and i am sure improve the over all look of cleanliness.

I do have to say in my own defense, the toliets do get cleaned, litter scooped, microwave washed regularly, i cant think of a time where i selpt on sheets that had been vomited on :erm and laundry does get washed on a regular basis just not all at one time or to a point to actually say laundry is done.

[Fierce Critter]

...things we do not use on a regular basis would have a home........

Cabinets would be helpful that would eliminate the boxes stacked up around here and if i could put my Photos art and knick knacks on the shelves i have for them that would be great fun and i am sure improve the over all look of cleanliness.

I do have to say in my own defense, the toliets do get cleaned, litter scooped,  microwave washed regularly, i cant think of a time where i selpt on sheets that had been vomited on  :erm  and laundry does get washed on a regular basis just not all at one time or to a point to actually say laundry is done.

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You know something? You shared pictures of your home once, and they almost made me cry. Your home - at the time the pictures were taken - was SO clean & tidy. I often look at my mess, and remember those pictures, and just get more depressed.

Ironic.

Anyhow, the rest of your post here sounds so incredibly familiar. This place is so freaking tiny, there is no real room for bookshelves, curio cabinets, CD racks, that sort of thing. I finally had to just have Jon take still-packed boxes of books, figurines, etc all downstairs where - thankfully - we have storage. But there are still boxes of unsorted clutter all over.

And my laundry/dishes/litterbox situation is identical. Like I said in my depression thread - bare minimum. I won't live unsanitary, just horribly cluttered and... furry. :whistling

The thing is, though, once I get up the motivation to do day-to-day necessities like dishes, cooking, I don't have enough left for sorting through boxes & putting clutter away. So it's mostly stuff like that that sits and sits and sits and sits.

Can we all just freaking get rich for a day so we can hire cleaning/cooking/petgrooming staff to get us on track so we can start from scratch?!?!?

[Homicidalheathen]

I hear St Johns Wart works for depression. This one family I know, they all complain of it and yes.......their house is the worst. But most of them won't do anything to feel better. I feel better in nice surroundings. Let me give you a run through. You walk in and it smells like stale everything. The carpet will have pieces of everything and dirty laundry scattered about all over it. Old pens, books.......empty pop bottles......just everything. The furniture is covered in clean laundry usually this is where they get their laundry as it never makes it back up the stairs to the dressers if it gets washed at all. You go into the bathroom. A trail leads through the mess to the toilet. On the shower curtain there are old, holey stained and torn undies hanging and dripping in your face while you try to find tee pee to wipe with. Your disgusted by a brush ontop of piles of mess that is so full of hair it looks like a creature about to jump out at you, it may even have something crawling in it. You go into the kitchen......piles of dirty dishes everywhere. The garbage full? Thats ok, just start piling the crap on the floor around it. In fact, try to hit the wall over it and make a splat while your at it.......A matress in the bedroom has a hole in it so someone just sleeps on the floor and leaves the mattress in the room. There is a path leading upstairs through piles of crap and it is a hazzard. You don't want to go over there drunk.

[Lilith]

You know something? You shared pictures of your home once, and they almost made me cry. Your home - at the time the pictures were taken - was SO clean & tidy. I often look at my mess, and remember those pictures, and just get more depressed.

Ironic.

Anyhow, the rest of your post here sounds so incredibly familiar. This place is so freaking tiny, there is no real room for bookshelves, curio cabinets, CD racks, that sort of thing. I finally had to just have Jon take still-packed boxes of books, figurines, etc all downstairs where - thankfully - we have storage. But there are still boxes of unsorted clutter all over.

And my laundry/dishes/litterbox situation is identical. Like I said in my depression thread - bare minimum. I won't live unsanitary, just horribly cluttered and... furry.  :whistling

The thing is, though, once I get up the motivation to do day-to-day necessities like dishes, cooking, I don't have enough left for sorting through boxes & putting clutter away. So it's mostly stuff like that that sits and sits and sits and sits.

Can we all just freaking get rich for a day so we can hire cleaning/cooking/petgrooming staff to get us on track so we can start from scratch?!?!?

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LOL ahh yes I do really enjoy a clean Home, something I once took a great deal of pride in, but it just does not matter really to me any more or i just cant push my self. Now if there was a holiday, a party or soemthing to give me drive to have it as perfect as it could be with all considered i would be all on top of it and drive every one nuts around here.

I dont know it gets tiresome to fight with 4 other people to keep it clean or to teach them how to clean.

maybe i got MOMMIE BURN OUT!

[Lilith]

I hear St Johns Wart works for depression.  This one family I know, they all complain of it and yes.......their house is the worst.  But most of them won't do anything to feel better.  I feel better in nice surroundings.  Let me give you a run through.  You walk in and it smells like stale everything.  The carpet will have pieces of everything and dirty laundry scattered about all over it.  Old pens, books.......empty pop bottles......just everything.  The furniture is covered in clean laundry usually this is where they get their laundry as it never makes it back up the stairs to the dressers if it gets washed at all.  You go into the bathroom.  A trail leads through the mess to the toilet.  On the shower curtain there are old, holey stained and torn undies hanging and dripping in your face while you try to find tee pee to wipe with.  Your disgusted by a brush ontop of piles of mess that is so full of hair it looks like a creature about to jump out at you, it may even have something crawling in it.  You go into the kitchen......piles of dirty dishes everywhere.  The garbage full?  Thats ok, just start piling the crap on the floor around it.  In fact, try to hit the wall over it and make a splat while your at it.......A matress in the bedroom has a hole in it so someone just sleeps on the floor and leaves the mattress in the room.  There is a path leading upstairs through piles of crap and it is a hazzard.  You don't want to go over there drunk.

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I agree with the nice surrounding thing i feel less cluttered or more relaxed when it is clean here. A good example of this was when i actually oragnized my dresser top, my room suddenly became more calm and peaceful..... now if could get to everything else.......... :blushing ........

The house right now is getting close to what you describe..... and it drives me absolutley insane and i have to pretty much sit on my ass untill tomorrow casue i Sprained my ankle last week which was ironic to me casue it happened right about the time i actually started to feel better :blink anyhow i need it well enough to hobble around cranbrook with my daughter tommorow on her field trip.

When i get home how ever i think i will pop a few motrin 800's and get some of this done.... its NUTS!