When you don't like somebody...

[Fierce Critter]

If I just can't get along with someone, if I've tried and realize it's a hopeless cause, I just let them go.

I stop communicating. I don't go out of my way to bother them. I don't badmouth them to others. At very least I give them the respect of just letting them be.

I've seen people handle this sort of thing in so many ways. Some seem to get on a vendetta and do what they can to smear someone they disagree with at every opportunity. Some get downright scary - violent, vindictive, etc. Some can't get over the fact that maybe they just don't get along with someone and keep trying and trying and trying, not seeming to realize they might be better off just letting go and moving on.

How do you handle it? Why?

[Hellion]

:devilI try to get things worked out,or unfortunately move on, like out of the state.

[Brenda Starrr]

I don't beat around the bush. If I don't like you, I say so. I don't enjoy being mean to people, though. It can be really hard to do.

I've only had to do so a few times in my whole life. Thank God.

[honeymustard02]

I'm like you FC in most ways. If I don't like someone I pretty much remove them from my life. BUT there are some people that I don't like that keep coming back and it gets to the point where I'm flat out mean just to get them away. But in all cases these people KNOW they are not liked by me and I don't want them around. I never pretend like I like someone just to avoid a problem. World knows I like problems.

[Marblez]

If I don't like someone I treat them just like everyone else. I don't ignore them or treat them like shit.

If someone that I don't like is doing things like stalking me, telling lies about me, and constantly blaming me for their personal situation...well, I just don't know what to do.

[The_Dark]

If I don't like you, you'll know. I don't have to walk away or ignore people I don't like. I don't think about them or go out of my way in anyway to acknowledge they exists. People seem to get the message and leave me alone.

[soothsayer]

I just ignore them......sooner or later they might grow up and move on. I certainly wouldn't try to turn people against them by telling lies, they may do that but I say whatever.

[Homicidalheathen]

Ditto that. If I ignore you take a frickin hint or I will then get real mean.

I'm like you FC in most ways. If I don't like someone I pretty much remove them from my life. BUT there are some people that I don't like that keep coming back and it gets to the point where I'm flat out mean just to get them away. But in all cases these people KNOW they are not liked by me and I don't want them around. I never pretend like I like someone just to avoid a problem. World knows I like problems.

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[Guest Megalicious]

I make it abundantly clear that I dont like them. So we dont have any mixed feelings, you know what Im talking about. That fake plastic smile, I dont do that. If I dont like you then I dont like you and Im not going to play nice, its just not something that I do. I guess it depends on to what degree I dont like the person, I never really enjoyed fighting, however it is something you have to do (atleast where I grew up) because if you didnt and you got your ass kicked everyone would pick on you. Sometimes it resorts to that if I have enough hate for the person, which is only a handful of ppl at the moment.

yeah is someone was talking shit to me behind my back , it would come to me kicking someones ass. Because that is disrespectful, if your going to talk shit, do it to my face or be prepared to have your ass beat. thats another aspect of the "I dont play nice" way of life lol .

[ManicQueen]

The way I treat someone I don't like depends on why I don't like them to begin with. It varies from ignoring to removing them from my life to just flat out telling them.

[DarkChylde]

If I dont like somone I tell em if they dont leave me alone but if they do then I just dont say nuthing and walk away.

[Marblez]

It is actually a curious thing to me that so many people segregate their lives so much into "like" and "dislike". I would be curious also to know if these same people are the ones that complain about the world being so "clicky". Well when you take a large group and know that this poperson does not like that person and so on...everyone ends up having to choose sides and splitting into less tolerant smaller groups.

[Head Wreck]

i get by.

if its becauswe of some dispicable act i will cut ties. only then

[Shade Everdark]

If I dislike someone enough to the point where I no longer want to associate with him or her, usually I will simply try to disengage myself quietly and slowly stop hanging around with the aforementioned person.

I don't like conflict (believe it or not). If I have to go toe-to-toe with someone, I generally prefer it to be something worth going toe-to-toe over, and there aren't many of those out there. It takes too much of my time and emotional energy to start a row or even just a straight confrontation.

[Steven]

takes a bit for me to genuinely dislike someone, only because they must first have to introduce dischord or some form of intentional harm to myself or my circle. And that honestly is pretty rare, because I'm feircly protective of my circle and I only allow certain types of people into it.

That sounds a bit egotistical perhaps but its not meant to be. I just beleive in give and take and reciperocal relationships, because i frankly dont have time for anything less than that.

If you abuse it therefore, and are not open to communication and or constrcutive criticsm, your out. I dont hate you, but I'm not involved with you, nor are you welcome in my home.

[JaneDead]

i have rarely ever REALLY disliked someone. even when i don't get along with someone, i don't usually dislike them. i just realize we are different people and try to respect that.

if it is someone i truly can not see eye to eye with i try to just space myself from them. if we happen to get into it, i try to just tell my side of things and move on from there.

i either like you or i don't care. it really takes a LOT for me to really not like someone.

[AstralCrux]

I guess I'm a bit too much of a Gemini I don't carry anger very long, unless I'm stuck in the situation everyday. If that's the case then I just try not to bother with the person if I don't have to. Eventually, I'll get over whatever was wrong.

[LuluVox]

It depends on the situation. If there's a pressing issue that's causing me to dislike someone, I'd like to think I would talk to the person about it if they are or had been an important part of my life (I'm actually going through a situation right now where I'm not sure if I should talk it out with a friend or just let her go). If it's just petty stuff then I don't go out of my way to let that person know, but I wouldn't necessarily pretend to like them if the situation came up, either. People (I'm thinking of work here) seem to tend to just intuitively know when I don't care for them (my loogy-hawking cubemate and the super-annoying bubbly suckup girl are the only two, but neither of them try to be friendly with me anymore, which is OK with me).

If we're talking about messageboards, however, I've recently started using the "ignore" function, and so far it's going well.

[Crazed Vampyress]

If i dont like someone i tend to blurt out something like 'i dont like you' or 'could you just not talk to me, please?' it's not intended to be hurtful, it just comes out cuz my patience is very short with peole i dont like. but i dont treat them badly. I would say i maintain a cool but courtious disposition with them for the most part. especially if the person i dont like is friends with people i do like, because i hate drama. just do my best to get along. however, in some cases after i have told someone in no uncertain terms that i dont particularly like them they decided to make it into a much bigger deal than it actually is. i had one girl actually tell me she wouldnt stop being 'extra super nice' to me until we became the 'best of friends' :confused which is ridiculous. and another time a guy told me that since i didnt like him he was going to make sure that every time i hung out with this mutual friend of ours, he would be there to 'ruin your night with my presense' **which is ridiculous. just cuz i dont like you doesnt mean my entire world revolves around what you are doing when we're in the same room. holy crap,!!** I wish more peole would just be honest. on the couple rare occasions someone actually got up the balls to tell me they didnt really like me, i was fine with that. I didnt like them either. at least i could respect them for coming forward....

[Hellion]

:devil Sometimes I will say one thing really quick,and they leave:example "Go find a cliff and jump off"Usually I won't even bother,I just look at them and walk away and get a beer.

[Saephyr]

I've had a very large and colorful mixture of emotions about that.

The most common is to cut the person from your daily living.

Problem being...you were still given an ill situation.

I hate to get physical.... no, really I do. It rarely happens anymore.

I can tear people apart in gruesome ways in my mind anyway and that in itself is enough to satisfy me.

It all revolves around 1 thing, something you did hurt/upset me and I deserve better than that.

[Brenda Starrr]

I threaten to cut their ankles myself. I've trained all of my employees to do so.

[Saephyr]

I threaten to cut their ankles myself. I've trained all of my employees to do so.

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Are you hiring? :devil

[Marblez]

It all revolves around 1 thing, something you did hurt/upset  me and I deserve better than that.

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I like this.

[phee]

I sorry about all this.... I will stop trying to talk to you *sigh*