Harrasment

[soothsayer]

What to do about it. What do you do when the person that is harrassing you refuses to move on and continues to contact you? It's even worse when this person has a history of harrassing others in the most vindictive manner.

Any answers anyone?

[soothsayer]

[soothsayer]

Just seeking sound advice.

[Rayne]

If she's hot... hit it... If not... discretely send HR an email.

Edit: If she's hot and you don't wanna hit it... My email is Froyn@comcast.net. Send it my way.

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:laughing :laughing :laughing :laughing :laughing

[torn asunder]

limit all methods of contact - if it means changing your contact info (cell, home phone, email, etc...) do so. if that means changing your daily routine (within reason), do so. if it means refraining from going places you may run into said person, do so. you only have control over what *you* do in this life, not anyone else. when you get to the point of being completely fed up, you will take action in your own life and forge new paths where said person will not be. when you stray back into your old life and allow the person to renew contact, you have nobody but yourself to blame - so don't do it.

of course, this is only my opinion...

[JaneDead]

limit all methods of contact - if it means changing your contact info (cell, home phone, email, etc...) do so. if that means changing your daily routine (within reason), do so. if it means refraining from going places you may run into said person, do so. you only have control over what *you* do in this life, not anyone else. when you get to the point of being completely fed up, you will take action in your own life and forge new paths where said person will not be. when you stray back into your old life and allow the person to renew contact, you have nobody but yourself to blame - so don't do it.

of course, this is only my opinion...

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ditto this completely.

i had someone i needed to "avoid" before. i even had to stop talking to other friends to do so. it was rough but worth it not to have to see her/talk to her again.

[soothsayer]

Maybe they still love me and refuse to let go.

LMFAO!!!!! :laughing :laughing :laughing :laughing :laughing

[JaneDead]

Maybe they still love me and refuse to let go.

LMFAO!!!!!  :laughing  :laughing  :laughing  :laughing  :laughing

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you know in the case of my "friend" i think she really did have some sort of love/hate for me. it was like she really wanted to destroy me but at the same time she wanted to be my best friend! and when i let her go she said she hoped i died and fell off the face of the earth. then when i ran into her after that she told me she missed me and wanted me to come hang out with her. :erm :laughing

the next time i saw her, she didn't see me too and i left where i was at. :fear haven't seen her since. *knock on wood*

[soothsayer]

I understand what you're saying. It's weird how some people can have those two emotions for one person. In my case it's almost the same thing - ran into them twice and both times they (not I) had to throw themself at me in a long hug and I was thinking *I have no desire for this* so maybe that's what's going on here.

[JaneDead]

i've come to the point in my life where if i see her again i won't run away. but i won't embrace her either. i don't want to be her friend or her enemy. i only wish her well but ... from far away if possible. hehe.

what i mean is and i hope this can be true for you too even if not now - to just let each other be. you can't be friends but no need to be enemies. hate is such a strong wasted emotion. not saying you hate the person but you sound like you want to avoid them. it's best to be honest and up front with people but be decent and respectful (even if you don't respect THEM) at the same time.

[FarrIL]

Lessee, harrasment.......

Tell them to leave you alone in the most tactful yet harsh manner possible.

If that dont work, threaten to call the cops.

Still continues, turn to the Cops. Get restraining order.

Still continues. They go to jail.

Problem should be solved, yes?

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Tell tem to leave you alone in the most tactful yet harsh manner possible.

If that dont work, tell a Mod.

If it still continues, tell an Admin.

If it still continues, threaten a ban.

If it still continues, BAN!!

MUWAHAHAHAAA!!!

[Head Wreck]

HW way of dealing.

tell them in a tactfull manner

tell them in a blunt manner

start ridiculing said individual in public

get friends to do the same

start harrasing the harasser..

:innocent

[honeymustard02]

I had a girl that I used to hang out with that I had that love/hate thing. I liked certain things about her and there were things that I wish I could have ripped out of her genetic make up and just stomp on it, put it in a blender, burn it, then feed them to a dog. :doh

I say if it's that much of a bother to you avoid them at all costs. Give it some time and then slowly go back to normal. Maybe if you give it long enough, said person will have moved on to someone else???

[The Void]

I agree with others and their many comments.

I would 100% say sever ALL contact with this person if you have not already cut the cord completely. outright ignore this person if you have to if they come up to you in public.

However, I would state to them in a final conversation that you're not going to tolerate them harassing you and it needs to stop. Then change your phone #'s and anything else you can to divert them away from you.

If they proceed with crank calls, those can be traced by the phone co.

If they harass you in person at work or home, you can go pay probably about $150 for a restraining order as long as you two have had a personal or professional relationship in the past. You cannot just randomly take out restraining orders on people, so they want a reason.

then, when they violate the restraining order and you call the police, they've fucked themselves by not getting over it and moving on and leaving you alone.

The only warning is that someone who's crazy can counterslap you with a restraining order and all this shit goes on record so if you have a legit job or want one, it might show up in a BCI that someone took out a restraining order on you.

If they're poor and can't afford it, fuck em, get your restraining order knowing they can't afford one back on you. *lol*

[DarkChylde]

Usually im flat-out honest and blunt about it but if they still dont listen then I get very sarcastic and mean.