Please don't get married

[Blackmail]

Is it wrong of me, is it me telling other people what to do with their lives if I ask some of you people never to get married?

Since my hard earned tax money helps pay for your divorce trials, I think I should have a say, especially when you post the details about relationships that obviously don't work. Reading a couple of threads today is what prompted this post.

So, if you're thinking about getting married, please consult with me first. Apparently I know what's better for you people than you do.

Thank you for your time.

[Onyx]

Tax money? You've got to be kidding.

My divorce is finally paid for but I'm still paying my second lawyer for the custody battle.

I'm curious how I can use tax money to help me out. If I could have done that my kids might be getting some child support finally.

Anyone know how to use tax money for that?? I've been working since I was 13 and I wouldn't mind getting some of it back!

[Marblez]

Tax money?  You've got to be kidding.

My divorce is finally paid for but I'm still paying my second lawyer for the custody battle.

I'm curious how I can use tax money to help me out.  If I could have done that my kids might be getting some child support finally.

Anyone know how to use tax money for that??  I've been working since I was 13 and I wouldn't mind getting some of it back!

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This is exactly what I thought, Onyx. The divorcing parties end up paying court costs, filing fees, service fees, all on top of their legal bills.

I do agree with Blackmail in the fact that people need to put more thought into marriage decisions. Aside from tax dollars that pay for domestic violence cases, there is a drain on police resources to handle these types of cases, "friend of the court" costs which are not paid by deadbeat parents. Not to mention the breakdown of the family unit when these naive young (and old) people do what feels good and get married easily only to find they really don't know or like eachother, leaving their children in the middle of ugly custody battles, convinced that one or another parent is evil incarnate.....

Yeah, spoken like a true divorcee, huh?

Anyone getting married under the age of 35 - think LONG AND HARD!!!

[odims_sphere]

I agree with both of you. I got married for way the wrong reasons. I thought my $2500 retainer was a lot but that was gone in no time, now it's $240 an hour. Please from now on instead of paying taxes just send me the money to pay for my divorce, that is a great idea.

[Marblez]

Ouch.

[Guest Megalicious]

Tax money?  You've got to be kidding.

My divorce is finally paid for but I'm still paying my second lawyer for the custody battle.

I'm curious how I can use tax money to help me out.  If I could have done that my kids might be getting some child support finally.

Anyone know how to use tax money for that??  I've been working since I was 13 and I wouldn't mind getting some of it back!

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I think Ted was talking about the court in General, yes our tax dollars (and yours) pay for the court to run so that you can have a divorce hearing.

I dont think he meant like your lawyer or child support ect.

People are so ,lets say, "blinded" by love that sometimes even telling them NO isnt enough.

Oh and If Im going to get married Ted, Ill run it pass you first lol ..

[Marblez]

I think Ted was talking about the court in General,  yes our tax dollars (and yours) pay for the court to run so that you can have a divorce hearing.

I dont think he meant like your lawyer or child support ect.

People are so ,lets say, "blinded" by love that sometimes even telling them NO isnt enough.

Oh  and If Im going to get married Ted, Ill run it pass you first lol ..

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It is my opinion that the fees associated with divorce that are paid to the court, not the lawyer, more than pay for the small amount of time that is actually spent in the courtroom.

[Guest Megalicious]

It is my opinion that the fees associated with divorce that are paid to the court, not the lawyer, more than pay for the small amount of time that is actually spent in the courtroom.

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Thats why Lawyers pay ALOT of money for years of college.

[odims_sphere]

I think Ted was talking about the court in General,  yes our tax dollars (and yours) pay for the court to run so that you can have a divorce hearing.

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Tax dollars pay for homless shelters and soup kitchens too does that mean that I get to pick which starving children to feed and which ones to turn away?

[Guest Megalicious]

Tax dollars pay for homless shelters and soup kitchens too does that mean that I get to pick which starving children to feed and which ones to turn away?

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Do you get to chosse which people have the right to get divorced and which dont?

If you can answer it yourself .. its best not to ask someone else lol ...

[Marblez]

I was just listening yesterday to a talk radio program and the focus was on how easy it is to get divorced these days and whether it has the effect of devaluing marriage. Everyone seemed to agree that divorce should be easy as possible but that it should be harder to actually get married. They said that couples should be required to undergo premarital counseling possibly even background checks.

I agree with these concepts wholeheartedly.

[odims_sphere]

Do you get to chosse which people have the right to get divorced and which dont?

If you can answer it yourself .. its best not to ask someone else lol ...

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Which is my point, I can no more say who has the right to get divorced than Blackmail can say who has the right to get married based on where tax dollars go. I pay my taxes. Why can't I use the benefits of those tax dollars? Besides, People change. I went to combat where the divorce rate for couples married less then a year prior to deployment was 85%. Most people cannot handle being without their spouse for that long. I don't blame it for my divorce, but it cirtanly didn't help and now that I need it, I'd like to use the judicial system.

[Guest Megalicious]

I was just listening yesterday to a talk radio program and the focus was on how easy it is to get divorced these days and whether it has the effect of devaluing marriage. Everyone seemed to agree that divorce should be easy as possible but that it should be harder to actually get married.  They said that couples should be required to undergo premarital counseling possibly even background checks.

I agree with these concepts wholeheartedly.

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Id second that Miss Marblez. I have had the chance to get married, thank god I never took it .. My ex wasn't the one .. and I stayed with him for 7 YEARS. I thought it through...and came to the conculsion that if it would happen then it would happen, why rush it. People dont understand that it is alot more then just "getting Married" it legaly changes your status, not to mention many other things. And sometimes people just change, things change, life views, Life goals.

I think people have to be much more careful. And not let the emotion of love be so blinding. Because all it ends up doing is hurting them and the people that they love ..

[Guest Megalicious]

Which is my point, I can no more say who has the right to get divorced than Blackmail can say who has the right to get married based on where tax dollars go. I pay my taxes. Why can't I use the benefits of those tax dollars? Besides, People change. I went to combat where the divorce rate for couples married less then a year prior to deployment was 85%. Most people cannot handle being without their spouse for that long. I don't blame it for my divorce, but it cirtanly didn't help and now that I need it, I'd like to use the judicial system.

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I never said he had the right to tell people to get married or not. I really dont think anyone has the right to tell anyone else to do .. Ted is just trying to get the point across that SOME people are just .... well lets not get into that because it will only get me trouble =) ....

As for being able to use your taxes dollars where you want join the crowd, Id rather not pay taxes that go to teach kids in public school, or property taxes that also go to public schools becasue of the neighborhood I happen to live in is in there "section". Because the simple fact is my kid is not going to public school. But that doesnt change the fact that I still pay taxes for it.

There are a million ways the goverment fucks us on a regular basis.... Thats the fucking "american" way. Does it suck .. yes. Do I have to do it? Yes or I go to jail. Its that simple.

[odims_sphere]

I never said he had the right to tell people to get married or not.

I'm sorry, I didn't mean it to sound like you said that. He is the one who said:

So, if you're thinking about getting married, please consult with me first. Apparently I know what's better for you people than you do.

I appologize for the miscommunication.

There are a million ways the goverment fucks us on a regular basis.... Thats the fucking "american" way. Does it suck .. yes. Do I have to do it? Yes or I go to jail. Its that simple.

Aint that the truth.

[Guest Megalicious]

Thats just Ted's sense of humor.

Aint that the truth.

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Yes and it sucks.

[Msterbeau]

Anyone getting married under the age of 35 - think LONG AND HARD!!!

Preferable not while long and hard... :whistling

[Msterbeau]

I was just listening yesterday to a talk radio program and the focus was on how easy it is to get divorced these days and whether it has the effect of devaluing marriage. Everyone seemed to agree that divorce should be easy as possible but that it should be harder to actually get married.  They said that couples should be required to undergo premarital counseling possibly even background checks.

I agree with these concepts wholeheartedly.

I like that notion too... Maybe there should be a waiting period of a year.. after you file a petition to marry.

[Rayne]

I agree with both of you. I got married for way the wrong reasons. I thought my $2500 retainer was a lot but that was gone in no time, now it's $240 an hour. Please from now on instead of paying taxes just send me the money to pay for my divorce, that is a great idea.

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I'm with Odims on this one ... :innocent

[paradox]

Is it wrong of me, is it me telling other people what to do with their lives if I ask some of you people never to get married?

Since my hard earned tax money helps pay for your divorce trials, I think I should have a say, especially when you post the details about relationships that obviously don't work.  Reading a couple of threads today is what prompted this post. 

So, if you're thinking about getting married, please consult with me first.  Apparently I know what's better for you people than you do. 

Thank you for your time.

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this is quite possibly the best advice ever.

its just too bad its years too late. :whistling :fear

[Onyx]

I like that notion too...  Maybe there should be a waiting period of a year.. after you file a petition to marry.

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YES! YES YES YES!

That would be very very good.

[Blackmail]

yeah this thread was semi-joking.

but yes, tax dollars pay for the courts and the judges salary, perhaps your divorce fees cover the costs of your trials, however I don't think so considering some of the anti-polygamy arguments I've heard. But that's for another day.

Both my parents have had multiple divorces because they're fucking idiots.

Don't get married.

bye.

[Steven]

I was just listening yesterday to a talk radio program and the focus was on how easy it is to get divorced these days and whether it has the effect of devaluing marriage. Everyone seemed to agree that divorce should be easy as possible but that it should be harder to actually get married.  They said that couples should be required to undergo premarital counseling possibly even background checks.

I agree with these concepts wholeheartedly.

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we spend years and cash "learning" how to be career conditioned, and how to move up the ladder, and how to make money, how to buy homes, etc. etc. etc.

Nobody questions this need for education, after all....it's your life we're talking about.

Yet we take the opposite approach on marriage. Pre-Marital counceling doesnt cut it. Thats just not enough. I have a great marriage, but only because I learned how to have a great marriage, I spent years and money and general inconvenience into the pursuit of knowing how to have a great marriage.

cause after all....it's just my life were talking about here.....

[The_Dark]

I would like to point out that "Court Costs" go to rent the court room for the time, pay the judge, baliff and court recorder... filing clerks, goffers and such...

You would think that all this would be paid for by the tax you pay. It's not. If we actually paid enough tax to pay for all the government programs and the daily government operations... we would never eat.

[Der Nister]

I agree with Mr. Gene Simmons' POV on this subject - " It's a good idea for women, a bad idea for men." N'uff said.