How important is love to you?

[Homicidalheathen]

Do you believe in love? Yes, all types.

Is love important enough to move to be with someone you love, even if you had to leave a city you adore? Yes, I did. I hate Michigan!!!

Would you spend time at boring family gatherings just because it makes them happy? Once a week every week usually on Sunday. They are boring, but I love them like my own.

Would you change careers if your career was taking too much time away from the relationship? Have done it already.

Would you step aside if they weren't happy and wish them well as you watched them walk away? Have done this many times.

Would you sell your house to pay for their experimental cancer treatment and save them from dying or would you just say "awww, too bad about the cancer but the market's just not right to sell right now"?

Yes, because money is only that and human life is priceless.

Would you sacrifice everything and say it was worth it, even if you lose them in the end? No, no one is worth that and if they think it would be good for me to sacrafice so much of myself for them that it is bad for me in the long run then they are not looking out for my best interests nor are they good for me in the long run. I do keep my head about things, even when in the first stages of love, that make you do crazy things like this.....it's called brain chemistry.

[ZhukovCodeslinger]

Not that i have this memorized or anything... but it does come from one of the five best movies of all time and pretty much explains love:

What is love

Oh baby, don't hurt me

Don't hurt me no more

Oh, baby don't hurt me

Don't hurt me no more

What is love

Yeah

Oh, I don't know why you're not there

I give you my love, but you don't care

So what is right and what is wrong

Gimme a sign

What is love

Oh baby, don't hurt me

Don't hurt me no more

What is love

Oh baby, don't hurt me

Don't hurt me no more

Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh

Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh

Oh, I don't know, what can I do

What else can I say, it's up to you

I know we're one, just me and you

I can't go on

What is love

Oh baby, don't hurt me

Don't hurt me no more

What is love

Oh baby, don't hurt me

Don't hurt me no more

Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh

Whoa whoa whoa, oooh oooh

What is love, oooh, oooh, oooh

What is love, oooh, oooh, oooh

What is love

Oh baby, don't hurt me

Don't hurt me no more

Don't hurt me

Don't hurt me

I want no other, no other lover

This is your life, our time

When we are together, I need you forever

Is it love

What is love

Oh baby, don't hurt me

Don't hurt me no more

What is love

Oh baby, don't hurt me

Don't hurt me no more (oooh, oooh)

What is love

Oh baby, don't hurt me

Don't hurt me no more

What is love

Oh baby, don't hurt me

Don't hurt me no more (oooh, oooh)

What is love?

[Homicidalheathen]

I found that I liked persons answers who's thoughts relected my own. Weird. Well, not really.

I guess we all do that.

[TheAbsynthFairy]

Love to me is so important. I never throw the word out there to someone without meaning it 100%. Love to me means always trying to work things out, and sacraficing what you can so the other person will have. Going the extra mile...even when it sucks. Being respectful of the other persons feelings in your actions, and when you are disrespectful admit it and try to move beyond that moment. Learn to admit when you are wrong, or when you know what you did hurt the other person... and then apologize. And when someone apologizes..do your best to accept that apology with maturity. (which is the hardest.) The biggest to me is keeping vows or promises ot the best of your ability, and accept that person for who they are and who they are not. Ohh...and always say bless you when they sneeze. Alot to ask for.....but It would be what I want..and what I try to practice..though sometimes fail at miserably. But thats part of being human. Maybe that is the most important part. Accept that the other person is human, and is entitled to mistakes now and again.

[holliwood66]

Do you believe in love?

-Sure, I am a hard one to crack tho~

Is love important enough to move to be with someone you love, even if you had to leave a city you adore?

-Yes, provided there was oportunity for me to grow in the place where I was moving...I wouldn't be appealing for very long without a way to continue my own journey.

Would you spend time at boring family gatherings just because it makes them happy?

- Of course! I am weird, and only get bored at my family get-togethers...(they suck royally for the most part). So, yeah - I usually have fun with other people's families

Would you change careers if your career was taking too much time away from the relationship?

It depends on why I was working so much...though I don't see this as every being a problem.

Would you step aside if they weren't happy and wish them well as you watched them walk away?

Yes, tho I have waited until the absolute end of my patience before breaking up with a few people - at that point I neither wanted to, or could wish them well *long sigh*.

Would you sell your house to pay for their experimental cancer treatment and save them from dying or would you just say "awww, too bad about the cancer but the market's just not right to sell right now"?

Experimental treatments aren't for sale...they are strictly controlled by the FDA etc. I would try by all means possible to get them in the study and on the real drug...and petition through the courts for humanitarian access to the treatment, and help them in any way I could.

Would you sacrifice everything and say it was worth it, even if you lose them in the end?

Better to have loved and lost

[phee]

I love my GF so much I can hardly see straight...

[torn asunder]

I love my GF so much I can hardly see straight...

i think that's apparent in your signature...

:laughing :whistling

[BrassFusion]

I love my GF so much I can hardly see straight...

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You might not want to tell her that- we womenfolk have a weird way of twisting what you say into something sinister, i.e...

"I love my GF as much as I do because I can't clearly see her face at any given time."

Just a heads-up.

[phee]

You might not want to tell her that- we womenfolk have a weird way of twisting what you say into something sinister, i.e...

"I love my GF as much as I do because I can't clearly see her face at any given time."

Just a heads-up.

I wouldn't worry about that with this one... the past ones... yeah

[Msterbeau]

You might not want to tell her that- we womenfolk have a weird way of twisting what you say into something sinister, i.e...

"I love my GF as much as I do because I can't clearly see her face at any given time."

Just a heads-up.

She pretty much says the same kinda things. I'm pretty sure there's no misinterpretation...

[saechalyn]

Do you believe in love? Yes, I do. Whether I believe it will happen to ME is another story.

Is love important enough to move to be with someone you love, even if you had to leave a city you adore? Depends. I wouldn't leave a city I adore for a new relationship or one I didn't feel confident about. For a spouse/life partner, then yes, if there was a compelling reason.

Would you spend time at boring family gatherings just because it makes them happy? Sure.

Would you change careers if your career was taking too much time away from the relationship? Depends on the definition of "too much time." If we worked totally different shifts and hardly ever saw each other, I'd be willing to make a change.

Would you step aside if they weren't happy and wish them well as you watched them walk away? If they weren't happy, of course.

Would you sell your house to pay for their experimental cancer treatment and save them from dying or would you just say "awww, too bad about the cancer but the market's just not right to sell right now"? Sell. Anything.

Would you sacrifice everything and say it was worth it, even if you lose them in the end? "everything"? No. I would not sacrifice who I am, my core values, or having a life for myself. Then again, real love wouldn't ask me to do that.

[BrassFusion]

Do you believe in love?

Yeah, even if it's only a mechanism to ensure survival of the species... It's there.

Is love important enough to move to be with someone you love, even if you had to leave a city you adore?

I think I adore travel more than I adore any one city, so yeah. Unless I had a long-term gig, in which case I'd have to think about it. Hard.

Would you spend time at boring family gatherings just because it makes them happy?

It wouldn't be boring if I was there with someone I loved. =) The best relationships are the ones where you feel a psychic connection even though it's not technically there... where one look can mean, "Wow, you were right, your uncle is SUCH a creepy pervo." My immediate family and I share that psychic wavelength. Family gatherings aren't really boring for us.

Would you change careers if your career was taking too much time away from the relationship?

I am pretty ADD and have trouble devoting too much of my time to any single pursuit, unless it's spending time with a loved one, as long as he's ADD too. I think that's why I'm into the music thing... I can make a lot of money for only a little bit of dedicated time. So definitely yes, if I found myself in that position.

Would you step aside if they weren't happy and wish them well as you watched them walk away?

I've had to do that in the past. He made it more difficult than it had to be, picking the worst time to abandon me and continuing to say how much he loved me, but that it just "wouldn't work out."

Would you sell your house to pay for their experimental cancer treatment and save them from dying or would you just say "awww, too bad about the cancer but the market's just not right to sell right now"?

If I had a house, I'd probably do that for any number of people I know. That's why I'm broke all the time- I don't care that much about money.

Would you sacrifice everything and say it was worth it, even if you lose them in the end?

I guess I've done that before. It was worth it.

[DJ Nocker]

This is going to sound corny but i believe it ever since I herd it, I dont care if it is from a sci fi movie or not.

Love is just a word, what matters is the connecton that the word implies.

Its hard to answer alot of these questions especiallt becuase most of us have not been in that situatuion, or had to think about it, at least I havent. I will try to answer the questions as best I can.

Is love important enough to move to be with someone you love, even if you had to leave a city you adore?

Well, why would we be moving? Job opportunity, or just becuase the other wants to? It would have to be dependant on the reason for leaving, if its a stupid "I just want change" I would say "Go on vacation"

Would you spend time at boring family gatherings just because it makes them happy?

I do all the time, it doesnt bother me, I do the same things for friends as well, I dont think you have to love someone to go through that.

Would you change careers if your career was taking too much time away from the relationship?

If it were financially possible, becuase who ever said all you need is love, was a FUCKIN MORON, you need money to survive, without money you get hungry, when you get hungry you get cranky, when you get cranky you fight, when you fight to much, you break up.

Would you step aside if they weren't happy and wish them well as you watched them walk away?

It wasnt ment to be in the first place then, so yes I would step aside, I would want to know why they werent happy though.

Would you sell your house to pay for their experimental cancer treatment and save them from dying or would you just say "awww, too bad about the cancer but the market's just not right to sell right now"?

In the relationship im in, my girl wouldnt want me to risk it, so i probably wouldnt, although I would do whatever I could to make her happy until the end, It would also depend on the type of cancer, and the side effect of failure along with how risky the treatment is.

Would you sacrifice everything and say it was worth it, even if you lose them in the end? If I lost the person... I dont know

[creatureofthenyte]

Do you believe in love? Yes I do, but does love believe in me ?

Is love important enough to move to be with someone you love, even if you had to leave a city you adore?

Well if I had a stable enough relationship, was in love with that lady, I would have to seriously think about what I would do. Like I've said in a different thread, I currently have a great job, and if I couldnt transfer to a local facility whereever she lives, then I would probably not move. I'm not willing to risk hurting my livelyhood for love. It may sound cold and selfish, but jobs like mine aren't as plentiful as they used to be.

Would you spend time at boring family gatherings just because it makes them happy? Absolutely.

Would you change careers if your career was taking too much time away from the relationship? I wouldnt be in a career that did that.

Would you step aside if they weren't happy and wish them well as you watched them walk away? If thats how it had to be, yes.

Would you sell your house to pay for their experimental cancer treatment and save them from dying or would you just say "awww, too bad about the cancer but the market's just not right to sell right now"? well no. I cannot sell something that I do not have.

Would you sacrifice everything and say it was worth it, even if you lose them in the end? no

[Steven]

Would you sacrifice everything and say it was worth it, even if you lose them in the end?

Here's where I have to say I have reservations. I have, in some ways, sacrificed all that I have been to be with Jon. I have, at different periods, left the family & land I loved, killed a career, given up hobbies, from the extreme to the minute. Some of this has been worth it. Some of it has only hurt me to the point where it may have hurt the relationship.

You have to keep a bit of yourself in a relationship. I have realized how much of myself I sacrificed, and recently begam work to rediscover "myself". I'm doing hobbies I loved again. I'm back with family & in an area I love. Etc.

A relationship can't be whole if one of the individuals isn't whole themselves.

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I liked this overall post very much. I think you and Jon are keepers in the relationship department, and I rarely see that these days - you have what it takes and you have a very healthy and pro-active perspective whcih I also like.

I also liked this last part that I quoted, because there is much wisdom in this. It's important to do this. Laura and I are one now,,,,,but we both still very much have our own interests, even inside of those we share. And we both continue to bring things to the table.

Steven

[BillyDeath]

Yes!

YES!

YES!

YES!

YES!

YES!

YES!

YES!

YES!

:grin :cheerful :woot:

[JaneDead]

As long as you introduce us to your hot, single, intelligent female friends.

Or even hot, single, intelligent female strangers.

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picky picky picky

[Fierce Critter]

I liked this overall post very much.  I think you and Jon are keepers in the relationship department, and I rarely see that these days - you have what it takes and you have a very healthy and pro-active perspective whcih I also like.

I also liked this last part that I quoted, because there is much wisdom in this.  It's important to do this.  Laura and I are one now,,,,,but we both still very much have our own interests, even inside of those we share.  And we both continue to bring things to the table. 

Steven

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:laughing :laughing :woot:

I'm laughing because I read this after just posting this:Compromising in relationships

I appreciate your observation, Steven. Thanks. And maybe you have some advice to offer me in that other thread. I sure could use it about now.

[AstralCrux]

Both serious and goofy answers welcome.

Do you believe in love?

Yeah I do. I have the rough luck of "unconditional love" for that matter, it's the hardest type.

Is love important enough to move to be with someone you love, even if you had to leave a city you adore?

Yep, I have before and I would again.

Would you spend time at boring family gatherings just because it makes them happy?

Yeah, their family can't be crazier than mine!

Would you change careers if your career was taking too much time away from the relationship?

If it was the best option for the relationship. I can't just go about loosing benefits over time, but I can find ways to make more time.

Would you step aside if they weren't happy and wish them well as you watched them walk away?

That's the hardest thing to do. I've done it before and when I did could never be friends with the people I left. The ones I've kept as friends, well, we may as well not have split up.

Would you sell your house to pay for their experimental cancer treatment and save them from dying or would you just say "awww, too bad about the cancer but the market's just not right to sell right now"?

I'd go homeless to save the person I love. Stuff means absolutely nothing in relation to being with the love of my life for even 1 more day.

Would you sacrifice everything and say it was worth it, even if you lose them in the end?

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I prefer not to sacrifice my sanity. But, I'll give up time, energy, stuff, and lifestyle to make an amazing relationship work. Really, only if I think the effort is worth the relationship.

[TygerLili]

Do you believe in love?

Yes, but I'm more cautious about than I used to be, and I was pretty cautious to begin with

Is love important enough to move to be with someone you love, even if you had to leave a city you adore?

I kinda did that. Yes, but probably not under the circumstances that I did last time. Sometimes I wonder if things would be better if I'd never moved.

Would you spend time at boring family gatherings just because it makes them happy?

Of course, who hasn't?

Would you change careers if your career was taking too much time away from the relationship?

My current job, yeah, as long as we didn't end up starving or living on the street. If it was my dream job, no. I might try to cut back on my hours, but I wouldn't give it up all together.

Would you step aside if they weren't happy and wish them well as you watched them walk away?

I want to say yes...but I can be pretty selfish and vindictive :devil

Would you sell your house to pay for their experimental cancer treatment and save them from dying or would you just say "awww, too bad about the cancer but the market's just not right to sell right now"?

There are a lot of variables involved here, but if I was sure it would save the person I wanted to spend my life with, I would.

Would you sacrifice everything and say it was worth it, even if you lose them in the end?

No. There was a time I would have said yes, but I am done sacrificing without the other person meeting me halfway.

[Rayne]

I wouldn't worry about that with this one... the past ones... yeah

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He's absolutely correct.

She pretty much says the same kinda things.  I'm pretty sure there's no misinterpretation... 

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... and he is too.

[Rayne]

Yes, but that love at first sight thing is bullshit.

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I used to think so too Meg, then I met Phee.

[Aralis]

Q: Do you believe in love?

A: Yes very much so!

Q: Is love important enough to move to be with someone you love, even if you had to leave a city you adore?

A: Ofcourse!

Q: Would you spend time at boring family gatherings just because it makes them happy?

A: Yes but thank goodness they are not too bad!

Q: Would you change careers if your career was taking too much time away from the relationship?

A: Yes I would. My family and loved ones come first.

Q: Would you step aside if they weren't happy and wish them well as you watched them walk away?

A: I would try to make things work and find out what was making them unhappy. I would try my damndest to make them happy. If nothing worked and could be done then yes I would wish them well but I would not be happy about it.

Q: Would you sell your house to pay for their experimental cancer treatment and save them from dying or would you just say "awww, too bad about the cancer but the market's just not right to sell right now"?

A: I would do anything to help and save my husband.

Q: Would you sacrifice everything and say it was worth it, even if you lose them in the end?

A: Yes but I highly doubt I have to worry about loosing him. The only way I plan to loose him is to death.

[Steven]

:laughing  :laughing  :woot:

I'm laughing because I read this after just posting this:Compromising in relationships

I appreciate your observation, Steven. Thanks. And maybe you have some advice to offer me in that other thread. I sure could use it about now.

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ah............ the musical compromise.

the truth? When were in the car togethor, 99% of the time she basically takes over the music department. used to piss me off royal. But after awhile I relaized that its not as much selfishness as it is that that is simply Laura's mode when she's driving, that's just the way she is.

In return (and its unnofficial but it just seem sto work this way) I'll pop in a Sister's CD or some Black FLag when she's in my truck.

At home.....we sort of take turns. She's usually the one playing the old records, and she'll throw in some of my beloved T Rex when she does. When I'm wopriking at the computer, I'll pop in whatever suits me at the time.

But the girl hates country, make no mistake about it. Bugs her more than it does me though. As for me, I dig it, even though I dont really know much about it. I just like the change and I love a good story telling song. she like my Johnny Cash though. ANd she bought me his Box Set and my Toby Keith CD without me asking, I thought that was pretty insightful and cool of her.