The Really, Really Scary, Annoying Guy Who Won't Go Away

[Draco1958]

Jon met yet another "ex friend" of Tom's on the pier the other day.

Same story.

I also hear tell that Tom's really hairy. Like, a pelt.

I wonder if his daughter takes after him.

Raowr.

MMMMM...........furry women.

[Hellion]

Very good advice for me to keep for future reference, Draco. Thanks much.

I really hope that Tom simply gets the hint this time. Ben told Jon that eventually, Tom just gave up. And we know he stopped bothering with Chuck once he latched onto Jon.

I hate to wish this on some unsuspecting person out there. But I hope Tom finds someone new to latch onto, and just leaves Jon alone.

The key here really is Jon. But unless it's a 6'4" brute beating on a woman, or some weirdo sitting on Candy's lap (long story), he just doesn't handle getting in someone's face and telling them "KNOCK IT OFF" well.

I need to not "be the man" here. Much as I'd like to. I mean, the guy IS an obvious wacko. More than likely a borderline personality - needs someone else to have an identity of his own, by taking on aspects of the other person's personality. And the worst of my fears is that he's so interested in Jon and even getting Jon together with Skanky Andrea, that he'd do what he could to get me out of the picture. This is a quiet fear of mine.

Jon and I had a more major blowout a couple months back. Let's just say the crap resulting from Jon's association with Tom got to be too much for me, and my depression and the state of our living conditions got to be too much for Jon. I ended up spending my first ever "angry night apart" from Jon at my parents, while Jon spent the evening at Tom's place.

The next day, as is our usual, we made up and found new understanding of each other and ended up as good as new. Better, even. But Jon got several phone calls from Tom and Andrea, both sounding EXCEEDINGLY disappointed that Jon patched things up with "the wife".

Thank goodness we have made Oakley out to be a guard/attack dog, emphasizing this to Tom especially. To be honest, there's no telling what he would do if someone came in uninvited. His reaction to odd sounds is enough to reassure us that if the day came when we - I - needed his protection, it'd be there, no holds barred. So hopefully that's enough to keep Tom from ever trying anything.

But I'm exceptionally paranoid. And I'm afraid to come home one day and find Oakley dead with poisoned meat crumbs around his muzzle, and a psycho waiting for me on the other side of his dead body.

Take the hint, Tom. Please. Just go away.

Send the P.O.S. A letter Bomb,that will solve the problem really quick.lol

:devil

[EvilEve]

all i can say is that i hope, for your sake, this goes away soon. be it by your own terms, or by something else. no one, under any circumstances, should be submitted to someone who has "idenity problems." it reminds me of The Cable Guy. .... excellent movie, but at the same time, kinda creepy.

maybe he will get the hint, maybe legal actions NEED to be taken. don't tolerate it for much longer, tho. the longer it goes on, the harder it is to get rid of the problem, the bloodier the mess will be. that last part might not be such a bad idea, hehe.

[Marblez]

Change your phone numbers, Jon's phone is for work, I know - but work should understand since they pay the bill and want him to use it for work - not harassing calls.

John, when asked by this guy can say his work was pissed about the bills and changed his number and he is only to use it for business from now on.

[Fierce Critter]

Interesting developments.

Tom shows up at the house one day last week. Knocks on the door and I get it, and quietly tell Jon who's out there.

Jon comes back and and tells me Tom had an "episode" related to his heart problems (just had a new valve installed a month or so ago, and an automatic defibrillator as well), and had the ambulance take him to the emergency room at the hospital down the street. Whined something about having to sit there three hours, them not finding him a bed, him getting tired of waiting, his phone dying, etc etc etc and can Jon drive him home.

Jon was kinda asking me what he should do. I said tell him to call a fucking cab. But Jon ended up driving him home (he lives in the next city over, maybe 5 or less miles away).

Once again, Jon and I had a "talk" about Tom. But Jon just can't figure out how to tell Tom to take off permanently.

We went to my high school reunion last night, then went to City Club. Got in around 3:30 a.m., and stayed up another hour or two. So we get to sleep about 5:00 or so, and are looking forward to sleeping in this morning.

And at 9:30 a.m., the doorbell rings. Guess whose truck is sitting outside at the curb?

Jon goes downstairs. Is down there a few minutes, then comes back upstairs. And I say, "So, since you're not taking his calls anymore, he's going to be driving by every damned time he wants to talk to you, huh?" And Jon tells me that he's in a really bad state. That Tom is shaking, and saying that he's going to lose the house he's renting due to back unpaid rent, that the crackhead girlfriend has taken a PPO out on him and he can't see her, that there's this problem and that problem, and that he doesn't even have the money to get a gun to kill himself, and that he can't take pills or anything 'cause the defibrillator will kick start his heart until EMS can come get him. He tells Jon that he wants to check himself into the psych ward at the hospital up the street, and he wants Jon to go with him.

So before Jon comes up to tell me all this, he does tell Tom, "Look, you know my wife doesn't like you. And I haven't been hanging out with you 'cause some of the stuff you've been doing is just too damned stalker-like and annoying". I don't really know what Tom said in response to that, but Jon came upstairs then to get MY opinion on what he should do.

I was frank with him. Told him that Tom can take himself to the fucking hospital. That Jon's going to take him to the hospital, and they can only hold him something like 3 days, and you know what's going to happen after that 3 days? Tom's going to show up here. That's what's going to happen.

And we had some more discussion. And Jon really wanted to tell Tom once and for all he can't help him. And so he finally went downstairs to where Tom was waiting outside. And damn, if Jon didn't finally do the right thing.

Jon goes out there and before he can speak, Tom starts telling him to get in the truck, that they need to go back to his house, "to pick up a few things, and we need to stop by the girlfriend's house so Jon can take a letter up to her...". Jon stops him, and finally tells him that he's sorry for what he's going through, but that Jon no longer can be involved with Tom's shit. That Tom needs to get his own shit together, and that he needs to just quit coming around, quit calling, just leave us out of his stuff from this point forward. And Jon didn't put it on me, either. No "the wife tells me I have to stay away from you."

I forget the exact words Jon used, but they were very, very good. And Tom got the point. He seemed resigned, like he's heard this sort of thing before, and both understanding and pissed. He drove off.

Jon and I are both feeling really relieved. Jon said he's glad he finally worked up the courage to put an end to all this. He feels free finally, and I feel more safe now.

Hopefully, this is the end of it all. If this doesn't work, at least now Jon has told him once and for all to not come around here anymore. So if he does, I can go get that PPO.

[Steven]

Jon....

you did good.

[LuluVox]

Whoo! Hooray for having the courage to do what needs to be done. Go Jon.

[Msterbeau]

Good for John. Sometimes it's hard to turn away another human being, no matter how fucked-up they are.