Proms

[BillyDeath]

As I look back and remember... I kinda wonder if I miss anything because I didn't make it to my prom. I didn't have any girlfriends in high school and I regret that. Their are no pictures of me and another girl on the household wall. When I go to friends house I see pictures of them and another girl on a wall and it saddens me. I have been holding this in a lot and I am just getting this out of me.

[BrassFusion]

Short answer: No.

Long answer: Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.

[Killer_Bunnie]

no, after going to mine, I had such a dull night I would have been much happier just staying at bears with my friends like we did every other weekend, that's where all the good memories came from anyhow. both times prom was a waste of time and money, the food was gross, and the music was nothing I'd listen to again.

[BillyDeath]

[celestial]

only thing you missed was wasting money, i didnt even get laid after my prom, i feel cheated.

[BillyDeath]

What about the pictures of girlfriends, thing.

[BillyDeath]

Is their antone who didn't make it to their prom?

[BillyDeath]

"They're all gonna laugh at you!!!!"

[Fierce Critter]

Sigh.

I didn't get to go to my prom.

And yes, I'm still bummed about it. And I graduated 20 years ago.

I wanted to go soooo bad. But nobody asked me. And I refused to go stag.

I went stag to the homecoming dance. It was o.k., but somewhat depressing. I had some cool people to hang with, but I really would rather have had a date.

I did not want to repeat that for prom. So I wouldn't go unless I had a date.

Out of desperation, I asked a really, really geeky guy, figuring there'd be no way he would have asked someone to go.

HE HAD ALREADY ASKED SOMEONE TO GO. And they said yes.

And by "desperation", I meant that at that time in my life, it took serious need for me to work up the courage to ask a guy to go to a dance with me. Fear of rejection was massively terrifying to me. You'd have to have known me back then to know how desperate I was to do that.

It's not that the guy was even that much of a geek. That's not what I mean by "desperate". Not at all.

Sigh.

And then I had this really obnoxious uncle at the time. He was over our house sometime around prom, and must have asked me a half dozen times if I was going/went to my prom. And it was like swallowing granite to have to keep telling him, "no". This is a guy whose son was one of those all-around perfect human beings who was probably prom king.

Salt-rubbing bastard.

I wish I could have gone to my prom.

One of these years, I'm going to go to one of those "2nd chance proms" held by radio stations. Now that I've got a wonderful husband, I can't think of a better person to go with. Perhaps that will assuage some of the hurt that still lingers, even today.

I think it's different for girls. To not be asked to prom is like some kind of massive confirmation that you are "unworthy" and "completely uncool".

[BrassFusion]

Sigh.

I didn't get to go to my prom.

And yes, I'm still bummed about it. And I graduated 20 years ago.

I wanted to go soooo bad. But nobody asked me. And I refused to go stag.

I went stag to the homecoming dance. It was o.k., but somewhat depressing. I had some cool people to hang with, but I really would rather have had a date.

I did not want to repeat that for prom. So I wouldn't go unless I had a date.

Out of desperation, I asked a really, really geeky guy, figuring there'd be no way he would have asked someone to go.

HE HAD ALREADY ASKED SOMEONE TO GO. And they said yes.

And by "desperation", I meant that at that time in my life, it took serious need for me to work up the courage to ask a guy to go to a dance with me. Fear of rejection was massively terrifying to me. You'd have to have known me back then to know how desperate I was to do that.

It's not that the guy was even that much of a geek. That's not what I mean by "desperate". Not at all.

Sigh.

And then I had this really obnoxious uncle at the time. He was over our house sometime around prom, and must have asked me a half dozen times if I was going/went to my prom. And it was like swallowing granite to have to keep telling him, "no". This is a guy whose son was one of those all-around perfect human beings who was probably prom king.

Salt-rubbing bastard.

I wish I could have gone to my prom.

One of these years, I'm going to go to one of those "2nd chance proms" held by radio stations. Now that I've got a wonderful husband, I can't think of a better person to go with. Perhaps that will assuage some of the hurt that still lingers, even today.

I think it's different for girls. To not be asked to prom is like some kind of massive confirmation that you are "unworthy" and "completely uncool".

I got asked to a semi-formal dance once, when I was a senior, by a freshman who was probably a nephew of the dork you asked. Not even worth it.

I went stag to my junior prom, and it was lame and boring, so I didn't go to senior prom. I'm pretty sure I didn't miss much of anything.

When everyone freely admits how horrible and evil they were in high school, how could you care what their opinions of you were? Out of the handful of people I went to school with that I've hooked up with again since, they're all either A. really cool or B. pretty pathetic or C. some combination of the two and even the pathetic ones aren't the jerks they were when they were teenagers.

[Guest Megalicious]

I went to prom with Eric a really good friend of mine at the time. I had an awesome time because I went with a group of friends, not to mention the after party. I didnt get laid but that was by choice.

Its funny, its the only time I ever gotten my nails done. I got thosse damn acrylic nails because mine were so short, I ripped them off half way threw the night because I could open a beer lol .... that god for drink because the next day my fingers were in so much pain I can only imagine what it would have felt like if I was sober ripping the things off.

[Fierce Critter]

When everyone freely admits how horrible and evil they were in high school, how could you care what their opinions of you were? Out of the handful of people I went to school with that I've hooked up with again since, they're all either A. really cool or B. pretty pathetic or C. some combination of the two and even the pathetic ones aren't the jerks they were when they were teenagers.

Actually, if my 20 year reunion proved anything to me, it's how much "cooler" I am than any of those losers. (I was, after all, the only chick there in 5" platform boots & a leather corset... )

So it's not a matter of caring what people's opinions of me were.

At the time, however, try telling that to a teenaged fattie.

My sense of self is 180 degrees different than it was then. I would crush the person I used to be.

But that doesn't change the fact that I still wish I'd have gone to my prom.

[BrassFusion]

Actually, if my 20 year reunion proved anything to me, it's how much "cooler" I am than any of those losers. (I was, after all, the only chick there in 5" platform boots & a leather corset... )

So it's not a matter of caring what people's opinions of me were.

At the time, however, try telling that to a teenaged fattie.

My sense of self is 180 degrees different than it was then. I would crush the person I used to be.

But that doesn't change the fact that I still wish I'd have gone to my prom.

I've never worn a corset or 5" platforms. Does that make you cooler than me, too?

[Fierce Critter]

I've never worn a corset or 5" platforms. Does that make you cooler than me, too?

It makes me 5" taller and that much harder to breathe.

[BrassFusion]

It makes me 5" taller and that much harder to breathe.

:doh

maybe if you were wearing 6" platforms my point wouldn't have just careened over the top of your head...

[Fierce Critter]

I got your point. But I don't see the point in your making more out of what I said than the WINKINESS implied by the WINKING emoticon I put there, so I chose to not take your comment seriously, nor respond to it as such.

[torn asunder]

just a friendly reminder...

keep it nice, or keep it to yourself!!

thank you, drive thru!

[BrassFusion]

I got your point. But I don't see the point in your making more out of what I said than the WINKINESS implied by the WINKING emoticon I put there, so I chose to not take your comment seriously, nor respond to it as such.

sorry babe, didn't interpret the winkiness as sarcasm. i got more of a "damn, i'm SO HOT in my phreak clothes, "

[Fierce Critter]

sorry babe, didn't interpret the winkiness as sarcasm. i got more of a "damn, i'm SO HOT in my phreak clothes, "

But of course I'm hot in my "phreak" clothes.

But if I were that vainglorious, I wouldn't make posts like this one. ;)

[Hellion]

"They're all gonna laugh at you!!!!"

:devil Hey Cool Pic there,have'nt seen that movie in ages,

Other than that,IDamn I miss the 80's was never interested in Proms,I'd hang out with

the potheads and go to a shitload of parties,

[BillyDeath]

Sigh.

I didn't get to go to my prom.

And yes, I'm still bummed about it. And I graduated 20 years ago.

I wanted to go soooo bad. But nobody asked me. And I refused to go stag.

I went stag to the homecoming dance. It was o.k., but somewhat depressing. I had some cool people to hang with, but I really would rather have had a date.

I did not want to repeat that for prom. So I wouldn't go unless I had a date.

Out of desperation, I asked a really, really geeky guy, figuring there'd be no way he would have asked someone to go.

HE HAD ALREADY ASKED SOMEONE TO GO. And they said yes.

And by "desperation", I meant that at that time in my life, it took serious need for me to work up the courage to ask a guy to go to a dance with me. Fear of rejection was massively terrifying to me. You'd have to have known me back then to know how desperate I was to do that.

It's not that the guy was even that much of a geek. That's not what I mean by "desperate". Not at all.

Sigh.

And then I had this really obnoxious uncle at the time. He was over our house sometime around prom, and must have asked me a half dozen times if I was going/went to my prom. And it was like swallowing granite to have to keep telling him, "no". This is a guy whose son was one of those all-around perfect human beings who was probably prom king.

Salt-rubbing bastard.

I wish I could have gone to my prom.

One of these years, I'm going to go to one of those "2nd chance proms" held by radio stations. Now that I've got a wonderful husband, I can't think of a better person to go with. Perhaps that will assuage some of the hurt that still lingers, even today.

I think it's different for girls. To not be asked to prom is like some kind of massive confirmation that you are "unworthy" and "completely uncool".

This I can totally relate to - the fear of rejectsion.

[Fierce Critter]

This I can totally relate to - the fear of rejectsion.

I believe it's been said that men fear rejection as much as women. But society has put them in the unfortunate position of being the one "expected" to make the moves.

I do not envy men this.

[torn asunder]

I believe it's been said that men fear rejection as much as women. But society has put them in the unfortunate position of being the one "expected" to make the moves.

I do not envy men this.

honestly, what's rejection? it's just a really fast way to find out that the object of your affection isn't open-minded enough to give you a chance, most likely based on looks only, and when you think about it, wouldn't you be glad they let you know right away that they were so shallow, so you didn't waste any time pursuing them? if someone rudely turns you down, just thank them, profusely... obnoxiously, even, and when they ask why, just tell them, "well, at first, i thought you looked like you might be cool to get to know... now i know i was waaaay off-base!!"

[BrassFusion]

honestly, what's rejection? it's just a really fast way to find out that the object of your affection isn't open-minded enough to give you a chance, most likely based on looks only, and when you think about it, wouldn't you be glad they let you know right away that they were so shallow, so you didn't waste any time pursuing them? if someone rudely turns you down, just thank them, profusely... obnoxiously, even, and when they ask why, just tell them, "well, at first, i thought you looked like you might be cool to get to know... now i know i was waaaay off-base!!"

Well, if you were judging them based solely on looks in the first place... yeah, you should expect occassional (or frequent) rejection. And you don't have every right to dis someone in that situation, I guess.

And yeah, I know. I've been there, talking to guys just cuz they were hot. =) I prefer to go after a guy for other reasons though, when possible...

[torn asunder]

Well, if you were judging them based solely on looks in the first place... yeah, you should expect occassional (or frequent) rejection. And you don't have every right to dis someone in that situation, I guess.

And yeah, I know. I've been there, talking to guys just cuz they were hot. =) I prefer to go after a guy for other reasons though, when possible...

good grief... show me where, in my post, i even mentioned judging them solely on looks... there could be many other things to make a determination on, other than looks, even on a "cold approach". for example, their interactions with friends, ability to laugh out loud, treatment of waitstaff (if out at a bar/restaurant), etc... why must you jump to that conclusion?

know what? nevermind... i don't even care to hear the response...