Proms

[BrassFusion]

good grief... show me where, in my post, i even mentioned judging them solely on looks... there could be many other things to make a determination on, other than looks, even on a "cold approach". for example, their interactions with friends, ability to laugh out loud, treatment of waitstaff (if out at a bar/restaurant), etc... why must you jump to that conclusion?

know what? nevermind... i don't even care to hear the response...

If, if if IF if, IF, if if.

If if, if? If if if, if if.

If... if?? If! lol...

P.S., to maybe add some actual meaningful content to this post... LIGHTEN UP!!!1 You should know by now I love you. We all do.

[Fierce Critter]

honestly, what's rejection?

To the psyche of the average person who feels a broad range of emotions, running the gamut from positive to negative, rejection is just that - rejection. A feeling that, somehow, one is lacking in that which would gain them acceptance.

Using myself as the best example I can provide, as a teenager, I was terrified of rejection. My self-esteem was so low, I was sure that, if any offer/request made was turned down, it was because I was somehow "unworthy, lacking, ugly, unwantable, undesireable, etc." I think the average teenager, particularly physically "imperfect" ones by society's standards, suffers from this sort of thing regularly.

It's not until we get older, wiser, more comfortable and satisfied with our own selves that we might be capable of some of the reverse-think you suggest, TA. Like I said, I would crush the person I was back in high school. I'm now more able to see a "rejection" as a sign of the closed-mindedness of the other person, rather than "proof" of the unworthiness of myself.

But on the other hand, I also now understand the concept of "taste" and "preference" and "turnons" and "turnoffs". I have my own preferences, not only where appearance go, but personality, interests, etc. Now I can see where sometimes a "rejection" is simply a way of saying, "thank you, I'm flattered by your interest. But I am looking for Type Q as opposed to Type J at this moment."

Someone may think they're the funniest person on earth. "I have a great sense of humor." But a person they're approaching maybe might like a dryer style, and be a bit overwhelmed and uncomfortable with a boistrous comedian. "Type preference" doesn't mean they think your type is necessarily bad. Just not what they are comfortable with at that moment in their life.

Just as I'm less judgmental of myself these days, I'm also less judgmental of they who might do the rejecting.

All that said, I'm still susceptible to feeling hurt by rejections. Since I'm "not on the market" due to being married & monogamous, I'm not talking hook-ups in the relationship sense. But other types of rejections still can thrum the bass notes in my uncertain & sensitive esteem.

[Hellion]

At least we were not rejected at the bonfires we would have,and the huge parties,that was our form of Prom,

Fill a new garbage can with all kinds of booze,and let the festivities begin.

[Daevion]

I went to my prom and it was great....my date was a really hot english/spanish girl...I have no regrets even tho the her and I thing didn't last very long...we ended up being friends so all was cool.

[DarkVampire]

I missed my prom. I would kick myself silly for missing it. Me and my girlfriend at the time were "busy" that night. Silly teen years.

[torn asunder]

FUCK PROM!!