Why Is It?

[Gaf The Horse With Tears]

Maybe it comes down to having things in common. Really, you live in a different world than they do.

Parentsmost likely don't want to see you roll your eyes and get that "Oh no, not again" look on your face if they mention thier kids.

Thats one of many examples, that I can think of, for why married people/parents dont like to hang out with single people with no kids.

[Hellion]

Age is also a big unfortunate judgment by some ppl.and stereotypes.

[sass_in_the_pants]

Maybe it comes down to having things in common. Really, you live in a different world than they do.

Parentsmost likely don't want to see you roll your eyes and get that "Oh no, not again" look on your face if they mention thier kids.

Thats one of many examples, that I can think of, for why married people/parents dont like to hang out with single people with no kids.

I think Gaf has a point here. It's hard for some of my single friends to understand why I'm excited that the girls have teeth and it's hard for them to understand why I'm not so excited that they got wasted and laid.

If you really would like to keep your friendships alive with these people, think of activities that BOTH people in the couple would enjoy or ones that they could bring their kids to (who can say no to a Tigers game?). Then again, maybe they're just too much trouble at this point and it's time to move on to friends who wouldn't be so high maintenance.

I'm sure you'll figure out what to do.

[Homicidalheathen]

When I was first married I didn't have hardly any...we were kinda new together and a bit insecure...we hung out at home a lot to save money....I didn't know many people here...

Is it any of those things maybe?

I have lots of guy friends now that he knows I tell him everything....

We both attract friends of the opposite sex though so we have to allow that.

I have always had more guy friends than girl.

People actually ask me sometimes if he is ok with it...like somehow its wrong.

[Irish*Punk*Princess]

OK, when I was married, I had nothing but girls who were my friends, now, I have like NONE.. all my friends are guys. (believe me, I don't have a lot of friends)

Why does this happen?

Is it because my girlfriends have hubbies/boyfriends and since I'm no longer in that zone, I don't count anymore? I think that's kind of petty if that's the case.

What do you guys/girls think?

Far from a guy love

[Miranda]

I've always had many more guy friends, even when I was married. I think in ways I think like a guy but am extremely female in every way. Men and I just get along much better, there isn't so much pretentious bullshit. Personally, I think many people get "caught" up very deeply into their relationships to the point of them losing part of who they are/were. Basically they seemingly need someone to make themselves feel complete or worthwhile. I've seen it happen many times.

Just like people who start dating a person then are never around until they are single again. I could never understand that. Honestly, those types of people are what I have always called "fair-weathered friends" or "acquaintances". If you can count at least 1 - 2 good friends on your hand, you are probably doing better than most people are.

To me, it is about quality not quantity. What do I want with 15 "friends" if they aren't sincere or are self-absorbed? I'll pass. If you don't ever expect much from anyone you don't get disappointed too often. If I ever get proved wrong in this matter, then I am just pleasantly surprised. People really have to learn to not be apprehensive about doing things on their own sometimes. Friends are great but they have to be genuine.

[Pandora]

I've always had more men friends than women, though I did have a woman best friend for nearly 13 years, but we grew apart.

Men are far easier to have friends than women, But, I think relationships with women can sometimes be far more rewarding too, but they require more effort.

I think women are more competitive with me because I'm highly sexual and that can threaten their relationships with men sometimes, though I would never violate a bond by cheating. And women are pickier in many respects so finding someone you have a lot in common with can be more difficult maybe. Also women are not as trusting as men are when it comes to friendship I don't think.

The older I get the more I want more women as friends as I value women more for many reasons, and I'm in the process of forming some new ones.

Like all relationships, you get out what you put in. You want more women friends? Pick up the phone, go out and do stuff with other chicks. :-)

[hunhee]

One thing I've noticed is that maintaining friendships with women takes more time and energy than it does with men.

Women, or at least the ones I've known, expect you to call them constantly and you're lucky to get off the phone in half an hour. With men you can not talk to them for two months, then call for five minutes and say "Just wondered how you're doing," and they don't get mad or accuse you of being a bad friend.

Not that I make a habit of ignoring my friends for 2+ months at a time, but when I was working, in school and in a relationship I didn't have the time to spend 2-3 hours per week on the phone with multiple girlfriends.

Hmm.. that's actually weird. I've spent maybe less than five minutes in the past talking to my girlfriends. it's GUYS that seem to want to talk for HOURS.. Hmm.. :/

[hunhee]

I think Gaf has a point here. It's hard for some of my single friends to understand why I'm excited that the girls have teeth and it's hard for them to understand why I'm not so excited that they got wasted and laid.

If you really would like to keep your friendships alive with these people, think of activities that BOTH people in the couple would enjoy or ones that they could bring their kids to (who can say no to a Tigers game?). Then again, maybe they're just too much trouble at this point and it's time to move on to friends who wouldn't be so high maintenance.

I'm sure you'll figure out what to do.

none of the people i'm referring to above have kids. For the most part, they have been in their relationships for a while, and always complain about their SO's. I usually do most of the listening.

It's been like six months or more since I've had a good conversation with either of them. Maybe they've just written me off, and I just have to accept that. *shrugs*

[Hellion]

none of the people i'm referring to above have kids. For the most part, they have been in their relationships for a while, and always complain about their SO's. I usually do most of the listening.

It's been like six months or more since I've had a good conversation with either of them. Maybe they've just written me off, and I just have to accept that. *shrugs*

People I know(pretend to be friends) that have done that to me over something stupid as "status,have been written off for life,The one good thing is when they do decide to want to get a hold of me,I basically forgot who they were and then I change my cell number,also

the best part is when they need help,and call me,I say "NO"and I go on my way,that blow off stereotyping bs does not fly with me,these are also the kinds of ppl that like to screw up plans,IMO.I have a certain amount of friends I hangout with,most are 38 and up,some are married but none of them pull this crap at all.Do what you think is best Hunhee,you are a wonderful person to be around.

[hunhee]

People I know(pretend to be friends) that have done that to me over something stupid as "status,have been written off for life,The one good thing is when they do decide to want to get a hold of me,I basically forgot who they were and then I change my cell number,also

the best part is when they need help,and call me,I say "NO"and I go on my way,that blow off stereotyping bs does not fly with me,these are also the kinds of ppl that like to screw up plans,IMO.I have a certain amount of friends I hangout with,most are 38 and up,some are married but none of them pull this crap at all.Do what you think is best Hunhee,you are a wonderful person to be around.

Thanks

[Hellion]

Here is some more info

some of it has to do with work,but there is a small part that tells the truth.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/money/2006/jan/2...dcareers.uknews

[DarkChylde]

Sounds like there just jealous of what you have and they dont.

Im sure my girlfriend would like to hang out. Your welcome to by and visit!

[rocker4you420]

that happen with me 2....... i used to have lots of girl friends now i ahve lots of boys friend and i dont know why it happen it just dose,.,.,,,, i wish i knew as much as you want

[sass_in_the_pants]

none of the people i'm referring to above have kids. For the most part, they have been in their relationships for a while, and always complain about their SO's. I usually do most of the listening.

It's been like six months or more since I've had a good conversation with either of them. Maybe they've just written me off, and I just have to accept that. *shrugs*

Dang babe.

I got nuthin then.

If all they do is complain about their better half, then how much fun would they be anyway?

I know, I know, they USED to be fun, and you just miss your old friend.

But still, I got nuthin.