Commitments And Friends.

[Msterbeau]

This will be short and sweet. OK... not so much the sweet. I've decided I'm completely fed up with friends who commit to hanging out or attending some event with you and then bail out at the last second. Mostly for weak reasons. Either commit to your friend and honor it or don't make the commitment in the first place.

Thank you.

[Hellion]

Damn straight Marc,very good thread

Stick to the original plans!!!

if its an emergency,example( family member is in trouble)

the only honest excuse,IMO

Either stick with the plans or don't bother coming around me for good.

[torn asunder]

totally down with that - which is yet one more reason i don't have friends... i have little patience for things like that.

[Hellion]

This also applies to family members too!

[Rev.Reverence]

Yes...keeping one's word to a friend is always a quality I look for..

[Hellion]

Yes...keeping one's word to a friend is always a quality I look for..

Yup,but unfortunately ones that become fakes get off on blowing off plans

[punk_princess]

Exactly. I couldn't agree more!

[CandyQuackenbush]

Oh man Marc, you couldn't have said it any better.

You're friends for a reason, and NOTHING can break that bond.

If a friend bails on you once, and you know the reason is legit, then that's fine.

BUT if they are always bailing on you, or giving you excuse after excuse, then you don't need to be friends with them anymore.

[creatureofthenyte]

right on man.

[Guest GodfallenPromos]

yeah...I completely understand the "stop bailing on me" thing...thats a big thing for me too....but...I can't say I haven't had to do that on more then one occasion...occupational hazard really....I try not too..but sometime....I have to bail to babysit a band or something

[Hellion]

Stick to your guns,very well said Marc

[Rev.Reverence]

Oh man Marc, you couldn't have said it any better.

You're friends for a reason, and NOTHING can break that bond.

If a friend bails on you once, and you know the reason is legit, then that's fine.

BUT if they are always bailing on you, or giving you excuse after excuse, then you don't need to be friends with them anymore.

OR in the least...know not to count on that particular 'FRIEND'.....

[Morbid Side]

My dad was out of my life for 18 years, and he does this to me all the time. I try my best to fit around his 'rigorous' schedule, yet he bails on me at the last second. I guess I've become so used to it now, I hardly care anymore. Yeah Marc, good post.

[Msterbeau]

yeah...I completely understand the "stop bailing on me" thing...thats a big thing for me too....but...I can't say I haven't had to do that on more then one occasion...occupational hazard really....I try not too..but sometime....I have to bail to babysit a band or something

Legit reasons... business.. That happens, and I'm OK with that. It's when they go do something else instead that I get pissed.

[sass_in_the_pants]

Legit reasons... business.. That happens, and I'm OK with that. It's when they go do something else instead that I get pissed.

The 'I got better plans excuse'.

A friend of ours did that all the time. He was into being spontaneous. Y'know what happened? Everyone else parties and he sits on his ass playing video games cuz we don't call him anymore.

[Hellion]

My dad was out of my life for 18 years, and he does this to me all the time. I try my best to fit around his 'rigorous' schedule, yet he bails on me at the last second. I guess I've become so used to it now, I hardly care anymore. Yeah Marc, good post.

I know that one all too well,my dad is so involved with his SO,and his business,he forgot me my older brother and sister existed.have not spoken to him in over 3 years.

[TygerLili]

Definitely. It makes you feel like you're their back-up friend.

I also hate when friends never ask you to do anything until the day it's happening, then get mad when you already have plans. Spontaneity is nice once and a while, but sometimes it's nice to plan, too. Then when you ask them a few days ahead of time if they want to do something, they string you along ("Well, maybe, I don't know our plans that day") for 3 days, then decide not to go. You could have just told me that 3 days ago, so I could have made other plans.

[littlepinkkitty]

I agree marc i get so sad when people cancel on me. it is one of my biggest pet peeves. Especially when you are all dressed and waiting to go out. Sometimes when i get ditched i sit in bed alone watching roseanne and eating ice cream.

[Bernadette]

It is irritating, last minute bailing.

It's one thing when it's a group and one or two bail -- still enough to have fun.

But if you're left holding the bag (and maybe even the tix for whatever event) -- then that's not cool.

Only caviat is a TRUE emergency, extenuating circumstance.

[Pandora]

Definitely. It makes you feel like you're their back-up friend.

I also hate when friends never ask you to do anything until the day it's happening, then get mad when you already have plans. Spontaneity is nice once and a while, but sometimes it's nice to plan, too.

I hate that too, I mean shit I have a schedule and a life outside of just you ya know?

But yes, I Hate canceling and try never to do it, though I have in the past. Being canceled on, especially for a piece of ass is the worst! Having plans canceled on me used to be my biggest pet peeve, instant volcano-temper. I don't love it now, but am better at dealing with it.

[Msterbeau]

I hate that too, I mean shit I have a schedule and a life outside of just you ya know?

But yes, I Hate canceling and try never to do it, though I have in the past. Being canceled on, especially for a piece of ass is the worst! Having plans canceled on me used to be my biggest pet peeve, instant volcano-temper. I don't love it now, but am better at dealing with it.

I dealt with OK until today. I had enough. Or maybe today is how I should have handled it in the past? Letting the person know I was not happy... *Ponders*

[Msterbeau]

I agree marc i get so sad when people cancel on me. it is one of my biggest pet peeves. Especially when you are all dressed and waiting to go out. Sometimes when i get ditched i sit in bed alone watching roseanne and eating ice cream.

* Brings caramel for the ice cream and tissues for your eyes *

People aren't very considerate sometimes.

[littlepinkkitty]

I just got canceled on again. I was looking forward for tonight all week. And 5 minutes before we were to go out i got canceled on. My feelings are really hurt and i hate this. I wanna crawl under my covers and cry.

[Goth Brooks]

I just got canceled on again. I was looking forward for tonight all week. And 5 minutes before we were to go out i got canceled on. My feelings are really hurt and i hate this. I wanna crawl under my covers and cry.

*hugs*

i'd be your rebound.... but ima broke bitch ;p

get ditched sometime after i've gotten a job.

[Msterbeau]

I just got canceled on again. I was looking forward for tonight all week. And 5 minutes before we were to go out i got canceled on. My feelings are really hurt and i hate this. I wanna crawl under my covers and cry.

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I don't think people realize that for some of us, this constant canceling and changing plans feels like rejection and that can be hard emotionally when it's done over and over again. Grrr...