Looks vs personality as opposed to good looks AND personality

[Msterbeau]

And it's not so much about looking for perfection - it's about going with your inner instinct. And getting into a relationship with someone who doesn't quite 'fit' your levels of desirability will in the long run mean you become more and more unhappy and start looking elsewhere.... and temptation to cheat starts to become more and more appealing! People get hurt

Now it's my turn to agree with you. Maybe some people can make a relationship work with a bit of uncomfortableness and a certain amount of conflict. I'm not one of them. When I'm head over heals for them, mind and body, that takes a lot of potential issues out of play.

[StormKnight (1)]

I can look past a lot of things if I make a connection. Trouble is, that is *extremely* hard to do, and have it returned. It has been a long while since I have made that connection, and it looks very bleak for the future.

Such is karma. And my curse.

[Riku Namako]

ditto... welcome to the club.

singles unite? Lets rock?

+tax even? XD

[Troy Spiral (13)]

If we are talking about an actual real-life situation where the thing progressed a little bit, not just a hour or week long crush or someone off TV or the Internet that never went anywhere:

I've never really had it TOTALLY 100% "sexual only" or "personality only". At least not since I started actually being self-examined about such things. (Say maybe since age 20-23 or so) Prior to that I tend to discount any relationships, as I was just learning to tell my head from my ass around that age.

I've been in situations were it was almost all about looks, several times in the (fairly ancient) past. But I learned the error of my ways on that one pretty quickly. Good thing too. I have tons of friends that are still stuck in the looks > personality loop and it fails even more rapidly than the normal failures. The culture-wide shame of that there is the endless random compliments about how "hot" somone I was dating was. Regardless of how crappy the relationship actually turned out to be.

When its almost totally about personality and they have virtually NOTHING going for them phiscally thats really rough. Makes me wana cry. I had half a mind to pray to god even though I dont usually do such things to help me out. (we are talking like 8 years ago) I've only really had it happen to me once, but eventually no matter how hard I tried I just could not seem to find the person sexually attractive and eventually it was just too much, and too unrealistic.

Personality can be very sexually exciting and can outweigh looks by a ton, but I'm not sure it can overcome EVERYTHING no matter how physically unattractive. Luckily there are lots of fish in the sea and plenty of women (I'm straight despite the rumors and pictures) that are both mentally and physically attractive. Even if I may or may not be totally absorbed with just one and can't fully understand that possibility.