How to get a woman to like you....

[Black Sunday9]

They are weak minded and need someone strong to guide them, that is why some girls put up with the bad attitude....and they can't stand a guy who seems weak like them because it means they have to face the hard truth of thier own weakness and shortcomings. Personally, I really don't fucking care about the reasons or motivations behind why this is so.......

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there is alot of truth to this.

[Marblez]

I prefer a bad boy aspect in a man. He has to be "powerful" in some way. I don't know exactly why. But...there has to be an overriding factor, as in multiple positive qualities making up for the lil bit o' badness.

My #1 turn-off: shyness.

[Marblez]

A woman cant be in love with a man she does not respect, and trust, and admire, and feel safe with.  Its that simple.

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I can agree with that to some extent, but the love can come before you realize that you do not trust, admire, etc... Eventually, that love turns to dependance.

I spent some time with a guy that was none of these things. I really enjoyed that time while it lasted and even became a bit dependant. But in the end, I was only was only in it for the excitement. He on the other hand, had become a little attached. I felt a little bad about that, but no, going into the relationship with the knowledge that I could not trust, respect, or feel safe... No way I could love him other than in a brotherly way.

[EatAjaxAndDie]

My #1 turn-off: shyness.

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Ouch. Thats where I get screwed over all the time...and not in the fun happy way. Oh yeah, that and low confidence.

Too bad no one takes the time to see I'm not a bad guy. However I'm always a gentleman and get stepped on regardless of what I do. In all of my years of observation (I'm not that old but hell I'm here on Earth too) bad boys get more women until those women grow up a bit and realize that they are getting treated like shit and need a nice guy for real companionship.

Hope I'm not too jaded by then.

[holliwood66]

Shyness and passivity are different in my way of thinking...

Shyness is ok, as long as there is a willingness to try new things - (perhaps not crashy-bangy things with tons of people and loud goings-on)...but at least an intrepid spirit. =)

Passive men are unattractive in that they often feel threatened/resentful if the woman they are with is has to take control to manage the household/finances/social stuff etc. Nothing like a man who knows they are dependent on someone to make decisions and cannot deal with this fact. This isn't always the case but it happens. I have dated a few men who would never, ever make any decisions however minute...and then when I was forced to make them they would pout, bitch, whine, generally make my life miserable. *Passive-aggresive twits are the worst*

Assholes:

Attraction to assholes is a clear sign of emotional immaturity - ignoring all the good guys and focusing on the one person who doesn't like them the way everyone else seems to/give them attention without working hard.

Then the lucky gal gets to do all the self questioning and analysis "why did he do this? why did he say that?" and then getting to bitch/ponder/blather/annoy friends, family,neighbors and co-workers about their complicated romantic life*read: drama* is exciting to some people...the remedy is to get a life/self esteem and all those bad boys lose their appeal.

[Dollardave]

I prefer a bad boy aspect in a man. He has to be "powerful" in some way.  I don't know exactly why.  But...there has to be an overriding factor, as in multiple positive qualities making up for the lil bit o' badness.

My #1 turn-off: shyness.

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How YOU doin :laughing

[Marblez]

How YOU doin  :laughing

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I'll give you that DD, you are definitely not shy. Unfortunately the whole married thing kinda throws a wrench in my plans..... not that you should rectify that for me

[Daevion]

I prefer a bad boy aspect in a man. He has to be "powerful" in some way.  I don't know exactly why.  But...there has to be an overriding factor, as in multiple positive qualities making up for the lil bit o' badness.

My #1 turn-off: shyness.

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I'm too shy for karoke, is that a problem?

[PhatGoth]

i ain't let nobody put me down

he better treat me like a queen to get some

[Onyx]

It's bullshit and it's why some women never find that one 'special' guy, they don't know how to appreciate a genuine man.

....Well, My woman definately does....

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It's so good to see two people in a relationship who appreciate one another. It's a beautiful thing.

"love" in and of itself will not last all on its own power.

you have to build it, renew it, prioritize it.

Definitely! When both are giving people it just gets better and better. If all men and women understood that the world would be a much happier place.

[mauraway]

A woman cant be in love with a man she does not respect, and trust, and admire, and feel safe with.  Its that simple.

Thank you for saying this. I know it doesn't apply to all women, but that sentence certainly does apply to me.

I don't fall in love often, but it is usually with someone who is a close freind, or at least meets those criteria that you mentioned in that sentence. I'm not particularly interested in marraige, but if I ever do, the guy I have in mind is one of my best freinds and treats me like a sister/ brother/ equal/ buddy. He's mellow, generous, able to take care of himself, and doesn't pick fights with me. We go on various adventures, and I always trust and feel safe with him. We can talk about anything to each other, or not talk at all since half the time we can read each others' minds. That's heaven to me.

Granted, that's not the type of dynamic every girl would want, but it works for me. I'm lucky to have found him, and to have known him the past 15 years.

mauraway

[Steven]

Thank you for saying this.  I know it doesn't apply to all women, but that sentence certainly does apply to me.   

I don't fall in love often, but it is usually with someone who is a close freind, or at least meets those criteria that you mentioned in that sentence.  I'm not particularly interested in marraige, but if I ever do, the guy I have in mind is one of my best freinds and treats me like a sister/ brother/ equal/ buddy.  He's mellow, generous, able to take care of himself, and doesn't pick fights with me. We go on various adventures, and I always trust and feel safe with him. We can talk about anything to each other, or not talk at all since half the time we can read each others' minds.  That's heaven to me.

Granted, that's not the type of dynamic every girl would want, but it works for me.  I'm lucky to have found him, and to have known him the past 15 years.

mauraway

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Smart girl....you've got your priorities right.

I know that not every girl would want these things, but in reality, not every girl has her shit togethor enough to value these things. If something happened to my wife (ie death) and I found myself single again - I wouldent even bother dating a woman who was not on this wavelength, I've learned too much now to waste time pursuing less than the best you can do.....

Steven