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[Mzdeadlyspell]

I think the worst thing I have ever experienced, was someone just up and ignored me after a year in a relationship. I guess it was the coward way out of things.........has anyone ever had this happen? What did they do? I am a very communicative person...so just curious as to how others handled it.

[Homicidalheathen]

What can you do? You cannot force someone to give you closure, if if it is needed and deserved.

I hate being a Scorpio.....patients is not one of my strong points. Even if it is being patient with myself until I am over being dissed.

[Guest Megalicious]

People deal with things in different ways. Im so sorry. I know that hurts. Here is someone you once meant so much too, and who meant so much to you. Just for them to pretend that they dont even know you must be heartbreaking. Even if you are over the relationship. The best thing you can do is not dwell. Make in effort to get the closure you need, if it is not met, the only thing you can do is move on honey. Know you deserve better then that, remember the relationship for what is was, try to remember the good moments, because if you just foucs on your anger it will get you no where =( Love can be a fucked up thing sometimes. It can brake you in two, But the only thing you can do is pick the pieces of your broken heart off the floor and start again, otherwise what is life worth living for =) Love is all around. Embrace it .... dont be bitter and cold, Because thats just going to make YOU unhappy.

[Mzdeadlyspell]

Thanks for the advice! I just am hanging in there.. I am usually a happy go lucky type of girl. Just was a unexpected turn for the worst. I shall get out there and try not to dwell. Thanks for the advice....

[Reaper]

Is this with someone recent Rebecca? I'll have to give you a call soon.

[Mzdeadlyspell]

yes I kind of wish I could say it was a friend of mine or what not. It was this weekend. Just was in a fight, which really was not my fault, I just do not understand, and guess I never well. But I do not have regrets....

Reaper give me a call...

[Crazed Vampyress]

i was very good friends with him for about a year and then we started dating. i thought it was great cuz he and i were best friends, and then to add lovers on top of that made my day. it was the happiest months i had experienced up to that point in my life. due to long dramatic circumstances i wont go into here i had to move away and of course my leaving was filled with tears and promises of still loving each other. of me moving back as quickly as i could. or of him moving to where i was at. there was an understanding that tho we didnt want to break up, long distance relationships dont generally work. above all i was sad to leave behind my best friend and wanted to most of all know that i wouldnt lose my friend. for the first weeks we spoke regularly. then it dwindled down, entirely on his part. finally i wasnt getting return calls from him at all. or mail. i still sent him letters. i emailed him. sent him birthday and christmas cards. i didnt give up for over a year.

eventually i moved back to the area and caught up with him. but our friendship wasnt the same and the relationship was long dead. he still holds a special place in my life, but the cut off treatment really hurt.

[Onyx]

I have to say, there is NOTHING more painful than just being ignored.

This has happened to me both with friends and also men I have dated. It's one of the worst things to do to someone. One should at least have the guts to end things, especially after some time spent together.

The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. ~ Elie Wiesel

[saechalyn]

I'm sorry that happened to you Rebecca...it's happened to me too, and it hurts. A lot. I'm sorry I don't really have any advice~ it's just how some people handle certain situations and there's not a lot you can do about it.

[Mzdeadlyspell]

thanks....I am at a loss, but will move on...it just sucks to see he is online....and not saying anything. Guess that is just how the cookie crumbles...

just at this age, figured people would not ignore other people, and tell them their honest feelings.........or that is where I thought the relationship was and all. :( Right before the holidays on top of everything.

[Reaper]

Yeah, I have had many women that just started ignoring me instead of just being honest. I would rather them tell me to fuck off and that they wouldn't want to hear from me or me contact them ever again. At least I would know what is going on. But not a lot can be like me where I become brutally honest to try and ave stress later on. This is true for what I recently had to do with my prior engagement and turning single again.

[ZhukovCodeslinger]

just to interject my $.02. Him ending the relationship by ignoring you sucks, but it could have been so much worse... He could have ended it with something sharp and pointy. I was always thankful when a relationship ended without a girl breaking violent on me.... any of you old enough to remember my ex? I mean my ex ex ex.... from '95... she ended things pretty badly. Luckily I was able to ignore the pain long enough to get the car back under control...

I hope you get through this without any more bullshit from his end. <smile>

[Shade Everdark]

I think the worst thing I have ever experienced, was someone just up and ignored me after a year in a relationship.  I guess it was the coward way out of things.........has anyone ever had this happen?  What did they do?  I am a very communicative person...so just curious as to how others handled it.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Had it happen? Not really, no. I did it to someone else, a couple of years ago. To make things simple, I was wrapped up in the nice little pity party that was my depression, so I collapsed in on myself and didn't talk to anyone...including her. I am a prick, yes.

As someone who's watched from the other side, I am very sorry some fellow did that to you, but on the bright side, such as it is, at least you know.

[Nienna]

I've been right where you are.. right at this time of year.. and it sucks. Hang in there. It does get better.

[Mzdeadlyspell]

Thank you....for all your support. He actually did talk to me the other night, but there are issues at hand, and now I am debating on wether to stay or leave....

a good night out well help me clear my head..

hmm the thing about the depression is probably close, he does get awfully depressed this time of year. I just dont like games at all, and sometimes it feels I am ignored for days, or he just wants to text message instead of call and talk...or sit online. I am more social ..it is hard...argh

[holliwood66]

After dating more than a few men who struggled with chronic/cyclical depression *and being a sufferer myself as well in the past* I don't think that depression is an excuse to not communicate at all. I've been on "ignore" from past boyfriends and it is just passive-aggression at its worst. Even setting those sorts of limits, the kind where the person says they need space/will talk later *and they give a day...no hanging "ifs"* is totally reasonable. The "I am in a bad spot right now, need space" sort of message is enough to at least feel acknowledged. If the person can't even give this, perhaps time to really do the list of positives/negatives and see which is bigger.

*Sending you some positive brainwaves* sorry you have to go through this sort of thing *especially this time of year...make is worse!*

[Steven]

walk up to them and stand directly in front of their face and say

"you might publically pretend you dont know me but the fact is that I've seen you naked.....so please continue"

[Scary Guy]

The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. ~ Elie Wiesel

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Adding that to my collection. Especially since it makes perfect sense if you keep the bell curve in mind. Love and Hate are on the high ends and indifference is in the middle at the bottom.

Personally I'd rather be ignored than hated.

[Nienna]

Adding that to my collection.  Especially since it makes perfect sense if you keep the bell curve in mind.  Love and Hate are on the high ends and indifference is in the middle at the bottom.

Personally I'd rather be ignored than hated.

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No way. If they hate you, at least they are still thinking about you. It's pathetic, but when you really love someone, anything is a comfort.

[Head Wreck]

guilty.

i have done it, didnt think much of it at a time, and tbh things were getting pretty stagnant between us, barely talking at times.

it was about the time i was about to start uni. as things never really heated between us, she was an emotionaly cold person, or so i thought.

i just stopped calling round, stoped calling, and generally dissapeared of the face of the earth and sunk into my studies. i was beginning to doubt myself in this relationship tbh. it went nowhere and i was just generally starting to get messed up in my head about what i was actually feeling

in second year i burnt out, i dont know what happned, i just couldnt write anything in a formal manner on paper, something that still is here, a great frustration is job applications. so i flunked out of uni and called it quits and came home

one day soonafter i was walking through town to go to the job centre, i passed her on the wayu i, me being late and not wanting to loose out on that weeks benefits and thew urgency for money i didnt stop.

on the wqay out she was on a bench outside sobbing with her freinds comforting her, who stared at me like i was dirt, well deserved tbh.

it seems i was worth a lot more to her than i realised. i truly regret what i had done, i'd been hurt a lot in the past before her and swore i would never do that to anyone. its here i found out that just dissapearing and hoping that things would go away was as bad as infidelity.

i saw her once after that, about 6 months later, just in passing. never seen such hate in an expression.

i really do regret my cowardice and insensitivity, never repeated since, nor will i ever do that again

[Onyx]

No way. If they hate you, at least they are still thinking about you. It's pathetic, but when you really love someone, anything is a comfort.

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How well I know this.

=(

[Shade Everdark]

No way. If they hate you, at least they are still thinking about you. It's pathetic, but when you really love someone, anything is a comfort.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I'd rather the person not care than be angry at me. Then I wouldn't have to deal with as much guilt.

[Scary Guy]

I'd rather the person not care than be angry at me.  Then I wouldn't have to deal with as much guilt.

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halllaluja

[wheresmypiggy]

I've had it happen to me.

I found it severly amusing.

Our break up meant that much to that person (even though they caused it.) that they had to go out of their way to ignore me.

Whos getting over it first? Looks like me!

[Mzdeadlyspell]

hmm well that just..to me shows the lack of someone communication skills at the time, or coward way to do it. I even am guilty of doing some pretty bad things....

Another thing that pisses me off, is I would call, text message and email. He preferred to sit online all day. I mean even when I called him, I would not get a call back, but then could go online..to find low and behold...the boyfriend!!

I just want someone real in this life, who wants to talk to me face to face, and spend time with me, not IM all the time...argh!