Class Reunions

[Fierce Critter]

It dawned on me as I was browsing classmates.com today - this year marks 20 years since I graduated.

Gads. It just doesn't feel that long. :confused

There are a couple messages out there from people pondering a reunion, and cleverly making an e-mail address available for anyone wanting to submit information (if you don't pay to be a member of classmates.com, you can't send and receive messages, or post your e-mail address).

I'm torn as to whether or not I want to contact these people or not.

I left high school happy. Graduated high in my class, with honors. Went "punk" at the end of my junior year, so I tasted a touch of 'popularity'.

But overall, I didn't give a fly about a majority of the people I went to school with, and couldn't care less if I ran into them ever again.

And, to be perfectly honest, I'm still fat. Fatter, as a matter of fact. I always swore I wouldn't go to a reunion unless I got thin. I fucking hate that I feel that way. Hate it. Hate that I can think that shallow. But I do. =(

I wanted to show-up at my reunion in a record-company limosine, skinny, wearing skintight red leather, with my band members in tow. :laughing

I'm totally happy with where my life is now. I've got a wonderful husband, I love where I'm living, I love how my life has ended up, and where I'm going. It may not be spectacular and exciting like a career in music might have been, but I'm doing damned good for myself.

I dunno. Time's wasting, so I'm considering dropping the $15.00 for a 3 month membership, long enough to exchange some e-mail addresses, read people's profiles, see where people have gone themselves.

I don't think there's been a successful reunion for my class since the 5-year in 1991. If they do pull one of this year, there may never be another one.

What to do, what to do.

[Hellion]

:devil Everyone HATED me, so class reunions suck

[Rayne]

My 10 year is coming up next year ... not quite sure if I will attend or not.

On the Clasmates.com end of it ... it's worth it.

[Steven]

never been to any of my own, been to 2 of my wifes.

Critter...EVERYONE wants to pull up in a limo, rail thin, with a wildly exciting life and dollar bills falling out of their pockets. Thats human. I can relate to that...I always wanted to say I "made it" - that my music paid off, but thats not my story in the end, and thats ok.

In fact I'd still love to "make it", and that too is ok.

Only the thing is now, I'm diferent than I was back then. And the things I value and desire have completely changed, as have I.

90% of what you see at class reunions is disturbing, because quite frankly, everyone is either concerned with proving themselves to their fellow peers or or settling old scores or trying to relive their youth.

But at the same time, its good to see old friends. Touch base. and realize that you are in a very good place yourself, and pleased with yourself. And there are many forms of success by the way. For example at Laura's 20th reunion many of the people were already into their 2nd divorce. tell me thats not a sign of something wrong.

[soothsayer]

I was invited to mine but since I stayed friends with my group of friends from High school there wasn't any reason to go. I didn't care to make small talk with people I was never friends with and I really didn't care to know how they're doing. No loss for me.

[Lilith]

2005 marked my 10 year.... I did not go i had no $ and a million other life issues i did not want to deal with while i went naner naner i got skinny to all those fucks who called me fatbelli (a mix of my last name back then), Being skiiny was not enough for me to go naner naner, i needed all the other good elements to be able to enjoy that feeling honestly, and i certianly was not better off all the way around.

Aside from that i really had no desire to go so the fact that i did not go is not really a big deal to me, i never really gave a crap if they liked me and i certianly care even less now. I have no friends that i speak with that i went to high school with and i dotn care, the friends i have made since high school have been better to me then most of my family let alone those so imporant friends made in high school.

Those i cared to know about i have already had brief contact with and afterward i thought to my self why the hell was i freinds with them in the first place.

Perhaps things will change in the next 10 years maybe not but for the moment i simply dont care.

[Homicidalheathen]

I had to leave home early to avoid an abusive situation and go to work to support myself so I have no idea what a normal teen life is like.

I thus did not graduate and got a GED and went to Cosmetology school instead.

I have no idea what it is like first hand but......

My man went to a couple and it was funny. Same politics as when he left! The popular 'kids' hung out together for most of the night. Most of the women had gained a considerable amount of wieght.....the nerdy guys got all the good jobs. One of the popular jocks had stopped working out and got flabby and lost all his hair.

He said he has no interest in going again but that it was mildy amusing......seeing who turned into an alcholic like their parents.......ect.

[bean]

I was invited to my 5 year reunion. I was almost going to go, just to see how many people fucked up their lives, but I decided it would be a waste of time. Once in a while I will run into someone from h.s. and they will recognize me, but I pretend I'm not me. It's funny when they come up to me and pretend like we got along and are all like "Rachel, omg its been so long, how are you!" and I say "I'm not Rachel. You must have me confused with someone else." They get all confused and walk away. Yeah, it's immature, but I don't care. I'm not going to waste my time on some idiot that gave me shit because I wasn't going to conform and be either a "prep," "jock" or "thug.". Past is past...if I wanted to keep contact, I would have.

Critter...you have a lot of great things in your life that you are happy about. I bet if you went to your reunion, you would find that you are much happier than most of your former classmates. *shrugs* and hey, it would be interesting to see how people's lives turned out!

[soothsayer]

I thought I was the only one that didn't give a shit about H.S. reunions.

[The_Dark]

i went to the 5, 10 and 15 year.. avoided the 20.

[Fierce Critter]

i went to the 5, 10 and 15 year.. avoided the 20.

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Without asking you to get too personal, why did you decide against the 20 after attending the other 3?

I'm finding the answers to this post exceptionally interesting. Exceptionally. I hope to hear more, and I'll respond with my own thoughts in a bit.

[The_Dark]

They held it at the Casino. I don't gamble, don't think it should be legal and wont support it. I was on the planning commity, but could not muster the votes to have the reunion somewhere else. When it was decided that it would be at the Casino, I bowed out and didn't attend.

[Brenda Starrr]

All the people that snubbed me in school are balding, chubby, and have several kids and dark circles. I saw it at my 15, and I'm satisfied. I don't need to see anymore.

[saechalyn]

My 10 year is this year and you couldn't pay me to go.

Well actually you could pay me, but it'd have to be a lot of money.

[Draco1958]

I haven't attended one yet, mostly because I didn't hear about them until after the fact and the one I did hear about I couldn't afford. This year will be the30 yr reunion if it's held, I might go just to see who is still around. I am sure a few of the popular kids are either dead, in jail or addicts since that is what they seemed to be heading for. Always wanted to go, hoping I would have a decent job, decent car and a lovely lady on my arm just to show them their taunts and ridicule didn't get to me. That I WAS someone worth being around as a friend. Well, that was my dream..............

[Blackmail]

so alot of you are still mad at the popular kids from high school?

:confused

[Brenda Starrr]

Not I. I'm happy....for me.

[saechalyn]

so alot of you are still mad at the popular kids from high school?

:confused

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I'm not mad at anyone but I have no desire to see or talk to any of those people. There is no point.

I am happy with myself and my life the way it is. I have nothing to prove.

[Draco1958]

Yeah, I guess I still have anger issues with them. Especially since a few of them were my friends in grade school and into Jr high. But by high school, I no longer fit in and they made sure I knew it every chance they had. So I went from being their friend to an unwanted POS. That's how they treated me so yeah I'm still hurt by it. Betrayal has that effect on some people.

[soothsayer]

so alot of you are still mad at the popular kids from high school?

:confused

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I'm not upset with anyone from my school days. Popular or not. In fact, there was this really attractive girl (whom was very popular) from my school that I ran into at a store a few years back and she reconized me. She rememberd my name and the name of one of my friends I hung out with (I was shocked). And she still looked hawt! If it werent for her three kids I would'e asked her out. :laughing

Damn Brenda why???????? :whistling

[Brenda Starrr]

Huh?

[bean]

I'm not mad at anyone but I have no desire to see or talk to any of those people.  There is no point.

I am happy with myself and my life the way it is.  I have nothing to prove.

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What she said...

[kellygrrrrrl]

You should all go.

I was never at a school long enough for people to know me....or even remember me for that matter.

I wish I had a reunion to go to....I think it would be fun.

I think you would regret it later if you didn't.

[DarkVampire]

I did the 5th year and 10th year thing but that's it. Nothing special. Plus I really had nothing to do with those people while I was in school. I was the loner type so they don't mean anything to me because they weren't friends.

[Msterbeau]

I was gonna go to my 20th last year. But it was more imporatant to ride 150 miles on my bike and raise money to find a cure for MS. I saw photos. I would have hated it anyways.