Romance or hot sex?

[Rev.Reverence]

Well I wouldn't pick just the one for REAL.....I was trying to humor PRick.

Well...your a loving Sister...

[hunhee]

Romance BRINGS hot sex.

If you're being sweet to each other, whatever that means to you, it brings REALLY great sex. I have been in relationships where we didn't have romance. Therefore, I wasn't putting out. If he's not good to me, I'm closed off. When I'm being treated as well as I am (and I don't mean with material things), he pretty much has to fight me off with a stick.

OMG this was my marriage.. the relationship without romance. It sucked.

The secks got to be boring and mundane.. and it wasn't like we were only doing one position. It was just bech! and it's because there were no butterflies.. no fuel to wet the umm.. oh nm..

[Brenda Starrr]

OMG this was my marriage.. the relationship without romance. It sucked.

The secks got to be boring and mundane.. and it wasn't like we were only doing one position. It was just bech! and it's because there were no butterflies.. no fuel to wet the umm.. oh nm..

See?? I know shit.

[TomCat]

See?? I know shit.

You know a LOT Behbeh...you're like, fokking brilliant and shit.

We should get married and stuff.

[Oh_My_Goth]

Well...your a loving Sister...

[creatureofthenyte]

Rev has a good point, and so does Brenda.

I personally would choose romance.

I could do the great sex by myself like Brenda was saying, but having sex with a woman that I am romantically involved with would be sooo much more satisfying and fulfilling; or at least it should be.

Masturbation provides a pleasureable result, but sex with someone you're romantically involved with, is... hotter.

I could never stay in a relationship if the romance is gone.

If the romance is gone, I will probably feel less likely to want sex with the woman I'm with.

If she is treating my like shit, I Definitely would be turned off to having sex with her.

So, yeah the romance has to be there for me to be up for hot sex, otherwise I'll just stay single and masturbate, tyvm.

[Ice Queen (1)]

Hot sex is very easy to come by

Romance, on the other hand, is very rare

[TygerLili]

If I can't have both from the same person then I've already lost interest.

[TygerLili]

And I agree with TWB, if I absolutely had to pick something, I'd go with friendship. Romance without the other stuff to go along with it actually irks me quite a bit.

[StormKnight (1)]

Romantic hot sex.

Romance BRINGS hot sex.

+1*10^10^10.

"There is lovemaking that is bad for a person, just as there is eating that is bad. That boysenberry cream pie from the Thrift-E Mart may appear inviting, may, in fact, cause all nine hundred taste buds to carol from the tongue, but in the end, the sugars, the additives, the empty calories clog arteries, disrupt cells, generate fat, and rot teeth. Even potentially nourishing foods can be improperly prepared. There are wrong combinations and improper preparations in sex as well. Yes, one must prepare for a fuck--the way an enlightened priest prepares to celebrate mass, the way a great matador prepares for the ring: with intensification, with purification, and a conscious summoning of sacred power. And even that won't work if the ingredients are poorly matched: oysters are delectable, so are strawberries, but mashed together. . .(?!) Every nutritious sexual recipe calls for at least a pinch of love, and the fucks that rate four-star rankings from both gourmets and health-food nuts use cupfuls. Not that sex should be regarded as therapeutic or to be taken for medicinal purposes--only a dullard would hang such a milestone around the nibbled neck of a lay--but to approach sex carelessly, shallowly, with detachment and without warmth is to dine night after night in erotic greasy spoons. In time, one's palate will become insensitive, one will suffer (without knowing it) emotional malnutrition, the skin of the soul will fester with scurvy, the teeth of the heart will decay. Neither duration nor proclamation of commitment is necessarily the measure--the are ephemeral explosions of passion between strangers that make more erotic sense than many lengthy marriages, there are one-night stands in Jersey City more glorious than six-months affairs in Paris-- but finally there is a commitment, however brief; a purity, however threatened; a vulnerability, however concealed; a generosity of spirit, however marbled with need; an honest, caring, however singed by lust, that must be present if couplings are to be salubrious and not slow poison."

--Tom Robbins, Still Life With Woodpecker

[TheGimp]

damn it really wanna get sum tulips now i wish isnt wasnt winter

[Brenda Starrr]

Tulips are very pretty.

I still vote for romance. And hot sex with myself!!!

[prick]

Tulips are very pretty.

I still vote for romance. And hot sex with myself!!!

Can I use this new mental picture later?

[Brenda Starrr]

Can I use this new mental picture later?

The tulips? Of course you can, sweetie!

[prick]

The tulips? Of course you can, sweetie!

Damn! My fault for not being specific!

[StormKnight (1)]

Damn! My fault for not being specific!

Clearly, you have never seen the lyrics to "Flower" by Liz Phair...and flower can mean certain parts of the female anatomy.

Every time I see your face

I get all wet between my legs

Every time you pass me by

I heave a sigh of pain

Every time I see your face

I think of things unpure unchaste

I want to fuck you like a dog

I'll take you home and make you like it

Everything you ever wanted

Everything you ever thought of is

Everything I'll do to you

I'll fuck you and your minions too

Your face reminds me of a flower

Kind of like youre underwater

Hairs too long and in your eyes

Your tip's a perfect suck me size

You act like youre fourteen years old

Everything you say is so

Obnoxious, funny, rude and mean

I want to be your blowjob queen

Youre probably shy and introspective

Thats not part of my objective

I just want your fresh young jimmy

Jamming slamming ramming in me

Every time I see your face

I think of things unpure unchaste

I want to fuck you like a dog

I'll take you home and make you like it

Everything you ever wanted

Everything you ever thought of is

Everything I'll do to you

I'll fuck you til your dick is blue

[Brenda Starrr]

Clearly, you have never seen the lyrics to "Flower" by Liz Phair...and flower can mean certain parts of the female anatomy.

Every time I see your face

I get all wet between my legs

Every time you pass me by

I heave a sigh of pain

Every time I see your face

I think of things unpure unchaste

I want to fuck you like a dog

I'll take you home and make you like it

Everything you ever wanted

Everything you ever thought of is

Everything I'll do to you

I'll fuck you and your minions too

Your face reminds me of a flower

Kind of like youre underwater

Hairs too long and in your eyes

Your tip's a perfect suck me size

You act like youre fourteen years old

Everything you say is so

Obnoxious, funny, rude and mean

I want to be your blowjob queen

Youre probably shy and introspective

Thats not part of my objective

I just want your fresh young jimmy

Jamming slamming ramming in me

Every time I see your face

I think of things unpure unchaste

I want to fuck you like a dog

I'll take you home and make you like it

Everything you ever wanted

Everything you ever thought of is

Everything I'll do to you

I'll fuck you til your dick is blue

Well, it IS called the "little flower."

[prick]

Well, it IS called the "little flower."

Hot damn! its on now!

[Brenda Starrr]

It is what it is.

[eleven]

romance

[asphyxian_doll]

Romance AND hot sex.

I have to agree and relate to Rev.

[prick]

Romance AND hot sex.

I have to agree and relate to Rev.

This is one or the other. the third option is no post.

[Brenda Starrr]

This is one or the other. the third option is no post.

Or, to totally jack it by discussing "little flowers" and what they can do for you.

[taysteewonderbunny]

Open letter to Prick:

Are you willing to have a little friendly debate on this question?

Okay. So maybe I'm confused about the question. And maybe my confusion has to do with the fact that my outlook and experience do not exactly match yours. But I feel the question itself is a little manipulative since there is already a cultural bias that romance should be more important that hot sex. And anyone who disagrees gets slapped with the labels of being either a sex addict or just extremely superficial. I am neither of those things (in my estimation). The thing of it is, I can't agree that romance is more important.

The reason I can't agree is that although I value very strongly things like symbolic gestures, courtesy, and generosity, I don't feel that most of what our culture deems as romantic best exemplifies these virtues. I think romance is false and manipulative. It's the little games people play in the hopes that there will be hot sex afterward. It's the means to the end, not an end in itself. If it were the end in itself, then one's level of SEXUAL involvement with the individual would hardly be a deciding factor as to whether one ought to engage in those practices. Say someone is really important to you, always there for you, always greets you with open arms and generally makes you feel wonderful, loved and appreciated. So you go out and buy this person a box of candy, right? But if this person is Gimp, Prick, do you still buy the candy? Or is that something you just get a lady WHOM YOU MIGHT BED ONE DAY.

Overall, I think it is the ROMANTIC stuff that is superficial, not the hot sex. Because--oooh, secret *SHHH*--I don't find sex with anyone I don't love and like deeply very "hot" at all. It's tepid. It's mechanical. It's yucky. And, no, I might not actually buy a box of candy for the person (or persons) with whom I'm capable of having HOT SEX, but I will demonstrate my caring in ways that is irrelevant to what may or may not happen in the bedroom.

My vote: Hot Sex

But I realize that you might (and probably are) conceiving of ROMANCE differently than am I; you likely feel that it is defined or exemplified differently than my, admittedly, little jaded picture above. So I want to hear from you what that picture is. Woo mee, Prick. Woo mee.

[DarkVampire]

One usually leads to the other.