Once you eat the honey

[wheresmypiggy]

I do feel a whole lot better.

Now where are the pretty bois?

Not boys. But bois. Mmmmm.

[Paint it Black]

So what is the difference, besides the obvious?

[wheresmypiggy]

boys. average. sexually driven. typical. love girls

bois. love the 80's. almost emo. seem bi or gay but not.

boys will be boys

bois will be whatever you want.

[ZhukovCodeslinger]

what happens when Bois meets grrlz?

any worse than when Boyz meets guirllaz?

[wheresmypiggy]

When bois meet grrlz the fun begins.

Friendships and fun.

No drama.

Now I really don't wanna see boyz meet guirllaz. That just sounds kinky and scary.

[Shade Everdark]

I want drama.

But, the kind you act in, not the kind you pull your hair out over, so it probably shouldn't be here...sorry.

[Steven]

Dont really know ya Jesi (I owe you Taco Bell) but you seem to me to be a woman who's seen and experienced too much to be hooked up with a Dude who can't put things in healthy perspective and doesnet have his shit togethor yet.

I'm sure there is a cool side to him - but he hasent grown up yet. Dont waste your time with boys, cause boys will always be boys.

Find a Man - whos still in touch with his youth - and who wants to discover you as opposed to containing you, and you'll be set.

Steven

[Angel]

From what it sounds like, losing him was a pretty good idea.. I guess I echo everyone else's statements, heh...

You seem like an awesome person, and I'm sure you'll find someone who meshes well with you eventually. =)

Bois, eh? Hmmm...

I have a pink shirt that says "Tough Guys Wear Pink"... That count, heh? :grin

[Homicidalheathen]

Don't worry about it. Just sit with Dollar Dave if the guy shows up.....trust me. Thats why I usually wait until he goes to go myself....I attract assholes too....

So I dumped him yesterday.

Wow. Yup. Sociopath.

Tried to tell me he was having a bad day and I was breaking his heart don't do this to him. Tired to convince me its not what I really wanted. Told me if I dumped him I would regret it and I would not get a second chance. He finally got mad and called me  a whore.

I hung up the phone.

He called back 3 times.

1st to apologize and tell me he didn't mean it, he was just hurt because he loves me and misses me and I just feel right for him and he doesnt want to lose me

2nd to tell me he didnt call me a whore i called myself one and he cant help it if he was telling the truth and maybe i shouldn't spread my legs for people he knows.

3rd was half threatening. Telling me I lost the best boyfriend ever. I needed to answer his call and resolve this. I was going to regret this. I'm a psycho. I have problems. This isn't over.

Hmmm...

Really makes me wanna call him back.

God I hope he doesnt show up at CC this weekend. I can't deal with another possessive psycho. I've been through too much in the past 2 1/2yrs. I don't think I can handle that. I will break.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

[wheresmypiggy]

So he called me today. Wants to talk. Work things out. Understand me. He misses me, loves me, doesnt want to lose me.

He actually sounded like he did when I liked him. Maybe it was the party favors. I don't know. I'm supposed to talk to him after work. I'm sure it won't go far.

[ZhukovCodeslinger]

again... trying to convince you he is normal... and he will change and that everything is a missunderstanding...

I admire your courage.... I am much too weak to subject myself to excess bullshit (or maybe thats a strength... I dont know)

seriously what is the point of talking to this Asshat? Just because he whines about how he misses you? Ever see the south Park movie... think about Saddam Hussein and Satan... (yes, Im calling you satan...) dont get into a position where you need Eric Cartman to save you....

[DarkChylde]

So he called me today. Wants to talk. Work things out. Understand me. He misses me, loves me, doesnt want to lose me.

He actually sounded like he did when I liked him. Maybe it was the party favors. I don't know. I'm supposed to talk to him after work. I'm sure it won't go far.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Heh, I know how that goes very well. Usually things dont go very far with me either. But other than that I hope the best for ya though and the fact ya guys can still atleast remain friends.

You say he tasted your honey right? But have you tried his sausage yet? Honey and sausage tends to be a good combination for breakfast J/K. LOL sorry, thought I bring some laughter in.

[wheresmypiggy]

You say he tasted your honey right? But have you tried his sausage yet? Honey and sausage tends to be a good combination for breakfast   J/K. LOL sorry, thought I bring some laughter in.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

:laughing

Wow. Even I didn't think of that.

I'm not entirely sure about all this. I'm not sure I wanna be friends. I'm not sure whether or not I wanna talk to him. What I do know is that I'm working 2 jobs daily. Sleeping 3-4hrs which is not enough for me. My defenses are low and he could very easily take advantage of that.

Whether he knows all this or not is another question.

Today I'm going to snap. Maybe I'll just go to work instead. But damn am I tired.

[The Void]

1st to apologize and tell me he didn't mean it, he was just hurt because he loves me and misses me and I just feel right for him and he doesnt want to lose me

2nd to tell me he didnt call me a whore i called myself one and he cant help it if he was telling the truth and maybe i shouldn't spread my legs for people he knows.

3rd was half threatening. Telling me I lost the best boyfriend ever. I needed to answer his call and resolve this. I was going to regret this. I'm a psycho. I have problems. This isn't over.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

YES, this person has classic signs of being an abuser. 100% Make sure that you are with someone for the time being if you go out and keep an eye on where you live. this type of psycho might try jumping out of the bushes at night and 'making you pay'. He's off his rocker.

He is definitely projecting his own lack of self esteem and lack of ability to control things onto YOU. I don't know how old he is, but I wouldn't even tolerate this from someone over 21, by that age they should learn that this type of behavior has no place in the real world. If he continues clearly state that you'll get a restraining orde,r or better yet, don't say anything and just go get one. I'd actually never speak to him again since any opportunity to get you on the phone is considered a foot in the door for this controlling maniac.

Good luck girl.

[The Void]

Also, abusive people feel very sorry about what they did and try to make up for it, but ultimately they return right back to the abusive behaviors once they have you back under their 'control'. don't fall for it, in fact, don't see him anymore no matter how much he begs. This guy needs to GROW UP.

[kellygrrrrrl]

Talk? Talk? What is there to talk about?

Of course he is sorry, and wants to work things out.

Don't bother girl! There is too many good guys out there. Why waste time on this guy when you already got the feel for him, and saw how he is. He is not going to change....this is it. This is his personality.....it will not change.

GO BACK and read your original post. REMEMBER why you wrote it. Go and re-read the posts and responses.

Let it sink in for when he does call.......do not let his words blind you.

They are just words.....................................

[Brenda Starrr]

I'm not entirely sure about all this. I'm not sure I wanna be friends. I'm not sure whether or not I wanna talk to him.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

If you're not sure, you shouldn't be going. Don't do it, Jesi.

[Paint it Black]

Wheresmypiggy, Did I read in the "what you did last night" thread that you saw this guy again?

=(

I hope you know what you are doing. I don't give out sound advice to people with no intention of following it.

J/K Take care and be careful.

EDIT: Oh, nevermind, I checked the date and you posted that on the 10th. :blushing

I was worried there for a moment. Seen too many good people constantly being pulled back into go-no-where abusive relationships...

[Guest MsMaldoror]

I'm not trying to be a jerk, but it would be nice to hear HIS side of the story too...

[Jarodaka]

Most guys don't like their S.O. giving out "party favors." Even so...

He called back 3 times.

He doesn't know what he wants. He thinks he wants someone like you, but he can't handle it.

I can't deal with another possessive psycho. I've been through too much in the past 2 1/2yrs. I don't think I can handle that. I will break.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

When the people keep changing, but the results are the same, well, you know...

[Guest MsMaldoror]

Like I said, there are always 2 sides to everything. People often have communication problems and assume things that are not true. Everyone deals with things differently. He might have a totally different story to tell...

One thing I have noticed on this board is that people readily side with anyone stating their problem/situation without knowing the whole story. It's nice to pat each other on the back and give others support, but that doesn't always mean that you're doing them a favor. I'm not personally saying anything about the person who started this thread, and I hope she resolves things. I'm merely making a general statement...

[Daevion]

Like I said, there are always 2 sides to everything.  People often have communication problems and assume things that are not true.  Everyone deals with things differently.  He might have a totally different story to tell... 

One thing I have noticed on this board is that people readily side with anyone stating their problem/situation without knowing the whole story.  It's nice to pat each other on the back and give others support, but that doesn't always mean that you're doing them a favor.  I'm not personally saying anything about the person who started this thread, and I hope she resolves things.  I'm merely making a general statement...

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Your right, I noticed that too...the story is one-sided. Not much can be done unless this guy comes on here and posts. Advice is easily given, for better or worse...its really up to Jessi to decide what she needs to do. I swear I was going to make some comments akin to what your talking about yesterday...somehow I forgot and/or got distracted.

[wheresmypiggy]

His side of the story consists of this. Now mind you I am a very fair person.

The party on Friday.

We went. I was 'distant' I saw some of my friends and went and hugged them. He saw this as disrespectful to him. I should not be 'hanging' on other guys.

Understandable.

Saturday.

He accused me of being in love with someone else. He asked for the honest answer. I said yes. Fight insues here. I believe there are many forms of love. He believes there is only one. Only room for one in your heart.

Sunday.

He sleeps the weekend off. I try to go home to sleep for work the next day. He accuses me of trying to take off. Tells me to go 'before i get angry'.

Now both sides of the story are nothing without the other.

I understand his views. I just don't agree with them.

Most of my friends are guys. He knew that ahead of time. Now all of a sudden it was a problem with how I treated my guy friends. Hugging them and such. I was to be his woman. Respect him. Well I didn't sign up for marriage so I saw this as asking too much.

He all of a sudden didn't approve of my job. Mainly because he thought I should be spending every waking momnet with him.

This can be construed as harmless. Or as possessive. I don't know which.

He called me after work yesterday. We talked. Just as friends would. How was your day, how are you doing... that kind of stuff. It was nice.

Oh and by 'party favors' I meant we were royally fucked up over the weekend. Not that I was giving 'party favors' out in any sexual manner. Drugs people. Drugs. They can cause people to act funny.

[Daevion]

Considering I'm not really involved, nor do I know this guy, I really have no decent advice to give you. Figure out what you want and follow your instincts, beyond that everything said by us on dgn is just some "off the top of our head or pulled out of our ass" bullshit. Whatever you do, don't listen to me cause there is an entire thread about how wrong I am. :laughing

[Head Wreck]

sorry.

dealt with this scenario before. with friends and thier relationships. if he cant accept you as you are, or give you the freedom to do as you want because no doubt he's probably carrying on as usual aside from this obsessive and possesive side (i have an obsession. takes one to know one some say.)

from what i've observed, your a mature minded person for the mostpart, you know what you want as far as things go. so why are you putting up with his emotional retardism.

the questions you haveto ask yourself is.

do you want him

can you deal with this side of him

and most importantly (just come to me), have you told him how you feel, fear and want. all i see here is wat he wants.

your a person too with as much right as him. dont lower yourself.

if you want to nbe with him both will need to make compromise, and some things may well haveto change in both of you. but if its worth the cost, its damned worth it