Describe your perfect mate

[Black Sunday]

I thought this topic might be interesting so....

describe your perfect soul mate. looks, personality, character traits, beliefs, everything.

and....have you ever met anyone that met most or all of your criteria for being the perfect mate?

[The_Dark]

OK like.. she would have to look exactly like my wife... have my wife's personaility and charactor traits. Her beliefs would have to be exactly like my wife's...

If I ever find a women exactly like that.. I'm going to marry her and have lots of babys. wait a second.... Nevermind, I have that. I can die happy now.

[JaneDead]

i think you should go first...

[Black Sunday]

ver 1.5

[Black Sunday]

OK like.. she would have to look exactly like my wife... have my wife's personaility and charactor traits. Her beliefs would have to be exactly like my wife's...

If I ever find a women exactly like that.. I'm going to marry her and have lots of babys. wait a second.... Nevermind, I have that. I can die happy now.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

well you are quite lucky and I envy you. Congratulations The Dark. =)

[JaneDead]

well i am married but i will still list my "ideal" ...

-someone who listens when i speak. and remembers what i said after. and will communicate with me always.

-someone who is smart and can take care of themself. with common sense too. but will lean on me when they need to and let me lean back.

-someone with a sense of humor. to make me laugh and laugh in general and not be too serious or sensitive.

-someone who will accept that there are things about me that are not perfect and they might never change. and if they do change it is because i am doing it for myself, not them or anyone else.

-someone who i can trust

-someone who i can turn to when i feel lost

-someone responsible

-someone who has patience and will logically think things through instead of acting before thinking.

-someone confident. i really can't deal with people's insecurities for very long. it makes them less attractive over time. confident, but not vain.

look wise honestly does not matter so much. i tend to like guys taller than me (i am only 5 foot 3 so taller than that is nice) 6 foot +

long hair, no hair, crazy hair. it's all good to me

beautiful eyes and a beautiful soul.

[Black Sunday]

ver 1.5

[Black Sunday]

ver 1.5

[JaneDead]

well see.. i don't need someone to remember everything i say. the important stuff would be nice though. and i don't like when people can't talk to me but rather shut down/ignore instead.

[JaneDead]

actually i don't have any requirements. which is probably my problem. those are just some ideal things that i would like to have if i could make it happen.

[Black Sunday]

ver 1.5

[JaneDead]

oh well, no i wouldn't be with someone not like that ^^ i guess i am just easy to please and only expect the basics.

[Marblez]

why would you date someone who didn't listen to you? why would you date someone who you coldn't trust? why would you date someone who didn't remember important things you said?

Perhaps some people end up with someone like this because they are blinded by the physical attraction or other aspects which are more easily apparent in the beginning honeymoon" phase of dating. Eventually, you find yourself in a relationship with someone that you realize that you did not know at all.

[Jarodaka]

I figure someday I'll meet the woman I never knew I always wanted.

[Marblez]

looks, personality, character traits, beliefs, everything.

Looks are generally unimportant. Honestly, I have found a man physically unattractive one week and handsome the next (and vice versa). But I do generally prefer men to be taller and stronger than me.

He is powerful, perhaps dominant but not too demanding/disrespectful. He is loving and supportive. He is a provider and will fight for the strength of his family. He is christian. He likes to have a good time, likes to play, and doesn't take himself too seriously. He knows that I am beautiful. He is inteligent (perhaps more than I) and I can talk to him and feel the same. He inspires me to be better than I am.

Know anyone?

[Head Wreck]

someone strong enough to deal with my shit, feels the same, independant

thats the hardest criteria yet

[Scary Guy]

(Found in a text doccument created January 31st of 04)

Personally I look for a pulse, no one likes a dead fuck. j/k

Seriously though, I look for trust, communication, honisty, love (of cource), and commitment. I think those are the pillars of a solid relationship. Oh yeah and must be female.

After that come my wants and fetishes in the substratum. Tall, thin, glasses, smart, technologically inclined (good with computers is a bonus too and an engeneer is a huge bonus), gothic, hair is unimportant but I prefer red/black, ofcource must be very cuddly, fangs are a plus, someone who isn't really dominant or submissive, attractive ofcource, kinda artsy, good sence of humor, can laugh and smile at sick things, likes funerals...

But I'm pickey, and no I haven't really given this much thought...

I forgot to add no smoking (except weed on occasion) or heavy drinking, the only thing I'd want my woman addicted to is my dick.

[DisturbedMania]

Hmmmm...... In terms of physical attributes I've come to prefer someone taller than myself, medium build, lil' bit of pudge (can't have 'em too tiny), and when he wraps his arms around me I feel completely surrounded and safe. I like beauty with little imperfections.

Someone not bound by gender roles, likes to spoil and be spoiled. Bit of a foot fetish might be nice, perhaps a bit of bondage. An artistic old soul with deeper understandings of himself, who feels free to understand at the next level as it comes around. Someone who understands the depths of love and wants to live them. When he can see just me in a crowd the same way that I see him, or rather sense him. Love and commitment on every level of life.

Unfortunately, this isn't happening. I've resorted to dating myself. :grin:

[LuluVox]

Because I'm sick of hearing things like "I'm sorry we lost touch (X amount of time ago); I just really liked you and it freaked me out":

Someone who's not afraid to like me.

(edited because I forgot a quotation mark)

[DisturbedMania]

Because I'm sick of hearing things like "I'm sorry we lost touch (X amount of time ago); I just really liked you and it freaked me out":

Someone who's not afraid to like me.

Wow. Well at least I'm not the only one. I always get those "It seemed too good to be true."

[LuluVox]

Cowards.

It always leaves me wondering if it was genuinely true, or if something was wrong and they were too chicken to say.

This also occurs when people tell me how great I am, make out with me, say they're not looking for anything, go out of their way to tell me how great I am another day, and then paw some other girl at City Club on New Years Eve. But hey, whatever.

[Black Sunday]

I'd like someone that I really enjoy being around.  Someone that has a very strange sense of humor.  Someone that doesn't care that I don't have a car right now (that's a big one, unfortunately).  Someone that's honest.  I know that answer is cliche, but after my last girlfriend I've learned how incredibly important that is.

Looks aren't a huge issue for me, but I've never been attracted to a girl with long hair for some reason.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

why don't you date luluvox? She is looking for someone like you and you are looking for someone like her.

Do I get a commission for setting you two up?

[LuluVox]

Dude, I don't have a car right now, either. It would never work!

[Brenda Starrr]

Looks aren't a huge issue for me, but I've never been attracted to a girl with long hair for some reason.

How refreshing is THAT? I seem to get the "You're beautiful. Have you ever thought of growing your hair?"

Gee, buddy...If I liked the feeling of wet hair on my back, maybe. If I didn't have to get 2 kids and a husband out the door in the morning, sure. Besides, what is wrong with women with short hair? Is it that we're confident enough with our femininity that we're not afraid to wear it? Is it that we're just confident enough in our own lives that you can't run them FOR us, and that just freaks you out?

Believe it or not, the men that I have asked those questions of have answered "yes" more often than not!

[Black Sunday]

Dude, I don't have a car right now, either. It would never work!

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

1) take the bus.

2) I'll drive you two lovebirds around when I'm not working. For a nominal fee of course.

3) you don't need a car to fly on the wings of love.