Has anyone else here given up on love...

[princesspsycho]

I'm definately done with love or even just liking a guy cause its too much pain and sadness. I believe that I am cursed or just destined to be alone for the rest of my life. Especially after last weekend I am not dealing with that kind of rejection ever again.

Don't give up. That guy sounds dumb and you are probably too good for him anyway. Just remember its his loss and not yours. Not all guys are total morans like him.

[Homicidalheathen]

I guess I still think it is worth the stuff you go through for true love......trials and tribulations......because the rewards outweigh the downside.

[saechalyn]

because the rewards outweigh the downside.

That's what they keep saying.....I have yet to see it.

[Rayne]

Nope, I haven't. :grin :innocent

[BrassFusion]

The rewards outweigh the downside for me, and the last time I had a healthy committed relationship was...

Well...

*thinks*

[SouthernFriedGhoul]

Nah, I haven't given up on it. But, I don't feel like constantly searching for it...in the wrong places. In the meantime, I'm having fun.

[DarkVampire]

Love? What the fuck is that?

Not that I am bitter or anything.

[Homicidalheathen]

*sigh*

No.

I am in love.

[pharoh]

I haven't given up on it. I know it's out there. Just keep on hoping that the next time it involves someone that is healthy for me.

I told you man I don't swing that way....wel only on weekends :peanutbutterjellytime

[Gothmama25]

Love is the most painful and one sided emotion that I have ever experienced in my whole life.

[Rayne]

Again ... No. Quite the contrary ... I'm getting married.

[BrassFusion]

Some believe that fear and love are the only emotions. And fear's kinda cool sometimes. You should try it. =D

[Gothmama25]

Fear can be fun and exciting.

[Homicidalheathen]

I guess I feel it is worth the heartbreak you endure once in awhile.....which is inevitable.......just to have a romantic sort of love......

Well for me it is.

I need it. I have the other types of love.....freinds.....family......just not the same.

I want to feel sexy while I am being held.....

........I love the fact that I can't stop thinking about you......

You inspire great songs from my soul.

[Steven]

I guess I feel it is worth the heartbreak you endure once in awhile.....which is inevitable.......just to have a romantic sort of love......

Well for me it is.

I need it. I have the other types of love.....freinds.....family......just not the same.

I want to feel sexy while I am being held.....

........I love the fact that I can't stop thinking about you......

You inspire great songs from my soul.

I'm glad to hear people still beleive in this stuff....its a shame when they leave this behind them.

And this is how you stay young.

[Steven]

Absynth, I can identify with those feelings. Poured my heart into an 11 year marriage just to watch her walk away like it meant nothing. I felt devastated. All her brow beating comments I accepted because I loved her and felt it was something you just dealt with. She walks and I felt like maybe she was right saying all that negative about me. Ended up meeting someone else. Fell hard and she decides to hook up with a married guy she had feelings for, dumped again. Feelings return. So here I am at 48, single, lonely, no dates. So I join this site, figuring I'd meet new people, be accepted for who I am, feel confident and maybe someone would walk into my life again. Almost worked. Don't feel fully accepted, confidence is low, etc etc. I understand to a point what you are feeling as I too have questions about will I meet someone. Sorry if this seems like a threadjack. I just wanted to explain where I was coming from, my experiences, feelings and such to show I also have been thru something and not just throwing my 2 cents in without anything to back it up. Yes I believe love exists, not sure it will ever find me tho. Just don't let the past experiences jade you toward what could happen down the road. Life has a funny way of surprising people. Again I apologize if I messed up this thread.

I'm gonna Jack your Jack Draco, and I'm going to take the liberty to offer you a wee bit of advice, cause I like yaz....

First - you need to remind yourself to hold your head high. Don't be a dick, but dont be a sad sack either. If you want a certain type of person in your life then you need to attract that person - you need to act out sometimes what you are not yet feeling until that feeling catches up to you. Don't sit and act in a defeated manner and hope that some sort of quality relationship will catch up to you....it wont, not the type you want at least. You need to move onward past what happened to you. Let it go. Become something new. or else your past will write your future and nobody should be stuck in that cycle. And dont judge your present via your past. This way when a new woman enters your life, you can leave the excess baggage behind you and give the new thing a fair shake. If she's a quality woman - then she deserves the best you have to offer. But if your hung up in the fears of the past or in past defeats......then your not really offering her your best, your instead offering her your worst.

And next time Dude - be a man. I'm not knocking you - please dont misunderstand. I'm simply saying that before you pour your everythiing into another relationship - make sure there is mutual respect in that relationship. If she values you she will respect you and your efforts, it really is that simple. You'll see it in her words, actions, and decisions. If she does not, she will not, and again you will see it in her words, actions, and decisions, it is no great mystery and you should not be shocked when someone walks away or gives themselves away because there are always signs along the way but are we paying attention????. And dont pine away for someone who does not value you. Never do that ever. Walk Away. Dont play games, dont act in spite, dont suck the life out of something that is allready dead, don't take the blame for everything and become an enabler, and likewise dont blame the other person for everything and thus become the victim. in my marriage, Laura knows that I EXPECT to be respected. In turn, I earn that respect with certain behaviour. And vice versa. As long as that respect is there foundationally betweenboth parties - you can communicate and work thigns out with trust. Thats what you want dude. Any relationship of merit should have some discernable degree of healthy expectation. If you cannot define who you are - trust me this world will do it for you and that's not being a man, that's being a pawn and you will fail.

YOU write your life Draco. You. Take what you've got, plot a course, stay the course, push yourself to grow, and the woman you want will make herself known.

Steven.

[The Void]

Love is an emotion, when coupled with certain experiences, takes on a certain meaning for the person feeling it.

Love itself is not to blame for any of this.

[pharoh]

I'm in love at least once a night.....then I rub one out and go to sleep :erm

[Rayne]

^ TMI Pharoh ... TMI ...

And For the last time NOOOOOOO.

I'm getting married. I found love. And he even loves me back. :grin

[pharoh]

^ TMI Pharoh ... TMI ...

And For the last time NOOOOOOO.

I'm getting married. I found love. And he even loves me back. :grin

Alittle full of yourself sweety?

[celestial]

love is for those with no direction in life. They need someone so they dont feel alone, isolated. Love is just chemical reactions in the brain,nothing mystical about it, nothing special, call it what you want.

[BrassFusion]

Umm... 1) That's sad you feel that way. 2) That in no way explains what I've experienced. A chemical reaction in the brain does not even come close to just "knowing" when something is happening. If it was a reaction, then the ammount of drugs I've done in my life would of surely fried that part of my brain or at least damaged the chemical receptors to the point where I would no longer get sympathy pains for someone I haven't seen in years.

Love's a by-product of evolution. If we didn't love, we'd fuck less (SOME of us!!!), and we wouldn't rear our children. Our genes wouldn't be passed on. But those creatures that did develop hormones and pheronomes and what-have-you WOULD succeed.

And that's what's happened. Just because it's chemical doesn't mean we can't enjoy it.

[BillyDeath]

and it doesn't mean we have to wear Izods, either.

[BrassFusion]

Get back in your gimpbox.

Edit: (To Billy)

[BrassFusion]

Love and sex are two different things. Our genes and child rearing have nothing to do with love, but more with survival. Pheremones are merely a byproduct to indicate "I'm in heat".

So people don't actually love their mates, or their children?